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Welcome everybody. I'm Laura Jones. I'm a co-executive director for Hudson Community First. We're so glad you're here.

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Hudson Community First is a local nonprofit that promotes positive youth development for all Hudson children by introducing them to the 40 developmental assets that will help them make better choices and grow up to be safer and more responsible.

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We want to welcome you to tonight's program, What You Don't Know and Why You Should, presented by the Hudson Police Department.

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government. This talk speaks to the asset of safety, where a young person feels safe

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at home, school and in the neighborhood. The funding for tonight's program and the rest

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of our community of care speaker series is possible with generous donations to our annual

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fund and Toast to Hudson fundraiser. We especially want to say thank you for contributions

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from Colleague Giving, Rosewood Hospitality and Cleveland Electric Labs as well as

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Tim and Amy Klepper, Ron and Lydia Harrington, Jason and Stephanie Cockreck, Jack and

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Becky Liske, Rick and Ellen Moulson, William and Cassandra Markwell and Mike and Marietta

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Markworth.

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The next community of care event will feature New York Times bestselling author Jessica Leahy

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sharing practical advice from her book, The Gift of Failure, How the Best Parents Learn

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to Let Go So Their Children Can Succeed.

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It will take place on August or, pardon me, April 21st at 7 p.m. in the Hudson Middle

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School Auditorium.

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I'd like you to help me welcome the Hudson Police Department.

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I will tell you I've heard this talk from them a couple of times.

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I know it's been updated for 2026, but last year I left just feeling how much our police

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department cares about our kids.

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There's awkward situations they'll talk about that if it happened in your family you'd

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probably want to hide them, but after you listen to them talk you learn that they just

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have so much insight and it's the type of thing they want to help your children

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through it so that it doesn't really end up impacting him too much.

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So with that, I'm going to pass the microphone and you're up first, okay.

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Hi, I'm Chief Perry Tabak. I appreciate everybody being here. I've got the easy gig tonight.

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I'm going to introduce my staff tonight and hopefully they're going to give you some good information.

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Who here has been to one of these presentations before? Anybody?

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So a couple of you, and like Laura had mentioned, you're going to leave here tonight with some new information

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Because what we've done with this program is every year we look for new trends or new things that we're seeing regarding these topics and so we'll change it and add the new information in because it isn't ever changing the world that we live in.

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So you will get some new updated information.

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My staff is pretty modest so they're never going to brag about themselves or background or training education and stuff like that.

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but these guys are all leaders amongst the other police officers in their peer groups.

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Just quick introduction so you get to know who some of these people are, but you got

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Sergeant Jim Curtin in the back, Jim. Jim is the newest addition to what we call special

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operations which encompasses the detective bureau, the school resource officers, and

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some other units in the police department that are in what you typically consider

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like the uniform patrol division, and that's where most of these guys are assigned

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to. Jim has done a lot in his career. He's a certified trainer for OPADA, which is the

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organization that regulates police training. He was a SWAT team, your team leader with

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Metro SWAT, as well as being, I think, the vice president of the OTOA, which is an organization

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in Ohio that is a SWAT organization. Jim's the newest member of the team, although

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So he was an SRO a few years ago, got promoted, went back to patrol, and now he's back with

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the unit.

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Officer Joe Giacomozza, one of our current school resource officers.

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Joe's also a certified trainer, subject matter expert in a lot of different areas.

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And he not only helps do some of the outreach training, but he also helps with the in-service

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training for the other patrol officers.

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Detective Tavis Campbell.

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He's one of our full-time detectives at the Hudson Police Department.

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Tavis, he wears a lot of different hats at the PD, but he specializes in a lot of our forensic stuff

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and computer stuff at the police department.

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And you'll see some of that expertise come out in his subject that he's talking about tonight.

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Officer Brian Loog, again, one of our current SROs.

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Brian's not only one of our SROs, but he's also on Metro SWAT.

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and he's also a certified instructor for OPADA.

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And then you have Officer Matt Price.

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Matt Price is also one of our full-time SROs.

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Matt's also on Metro SWAT and Matt is a subject matter expert

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in a bunch of different fields.

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He's also a negotiator for the SWAT team.

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So you've got a kind of wide background

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and these guys have a lot of training

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and hopefully comes through with this.

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One thing too is these guys are all parents, right?

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So when we sat down to look at this, the information that we wanted to give to the public and parents

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and stuff like that, we kind of sat down and said, okay, if we didn't know some of this

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stuff, what would we want to know?

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And so it's coming not only from police officers who are experts in different areas, but they're

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all parents.

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So hopefully you leave here with, even if it's one piece of information that

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didn't have that may help a situation that you encounter or prevent a situation from

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happening.

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So thank you for being here.

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All right, good evening everybody.

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We're going to start the night by talking a little bit about some of the things that we've been doing in the classrooms.

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Some of the things that we've also noticed that kind of worked.

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Obviously, you know, we can have the training, we can have the experience,

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but we're also learning from other parents as well, right?

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Your experiences, you know, parents that have maybe children that have been struggling with some things in their everyday life.

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So there are some things in here that you're going to go,

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oh yeah, why not?

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And then some things you're like, oh, maybe I'll try that.

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So that's what we're going to start you out with a little bit

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today, but first of all, the presentation goals,

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we're going to be understanding a little bit about some

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of the peer pressure and what we're talking

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with the kids in the class with.

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Some of the common substances

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that we're seeing throughout our schools are

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and not only, you know, public, private,

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just in the school district itself.

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health, risk recognition, prevention strategies, sex-dorsen and social media, promoting healthy

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communication and some of the legal consequences.

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So if your child gets in trouble, what are some of those consequences that are expected?

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So we all would love to wrap our kids up, right?

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That's how we start, right?

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We want to wrap them up before they get out that door.

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As they start growing up, though, we've got to start having a little trust of

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them kind of going out on their own you know and sometimes it's that first

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second child and then by that third one you're like all right don't hurt

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yourself you know just go just go out there but you know we when at the end

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of the day we want to protect our kids right that's for really what we're what

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we want and it really starts with that communication and you're gonna be

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hearing that a lot throughout this presentation is communication communication

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without that communication are they gonna feel comfortable coming to you

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so it's very important to, you know, kind of recognize that

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and try to figure out those strategies that will help them have trust in you to come to you.

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So some of the warning signs, some of us have heard from, you know, friends, family,

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some of us might be experiencing it.

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It's those typical signs that we see that sometimes we have to try to pay attention for,

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you know, and I understand that every day it's fast.

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lives are fast, where we're busy, we're moving around,

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we're working, we're trying to raise our family.

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Some of those warning signs are common things

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that we've seen, right?

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The sudden change in behavior, it's very common

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when we have a kid that is starting to get in trouble

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or starting to kind of veer off of what their norm is.

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It's usually that sudden change, something's going on.

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It could be something as simple as bullying.

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It could be something as simple as getting

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peer pressured and something. The physical signs, not, you know, not dressing the way

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that they normally would dress. You know, usually they, you know, have a certain style

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that they like. Now they're not exactly, you know, gearing towards that. They're kind

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of just waking up, wanting to just, you know, go about the day. School performance

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is a huge thing. Watching their grades, we've seen that where that dip has really,

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You know taking a dive in their grades and that's something obviously to pay attention for sometimes like I'm good

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I'm just you know struggling in math class. That's fine. That could be a very good possibility

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But if you start seeing maybe another class starting to trend down, that's something that now you're going okay

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Something else could be wrong here. We need we need to we need to try to communicate with each other and see what exactly is going on

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Social changes obviously they could be having issues with friends

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and sometimes financial

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So, whenever we're figuring out the factors that contributed to this, we're obviously

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finding peer pressure and desire to fit in is kind of that leading cause if they're

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getting into any drugs, alcohol, anything of that.

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So that's something to always pay attention for to communicate with your children about

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what we're doing in the schools as SROs, with DARE, with our Internet safety classes.

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is we're talking about that peer pressure.

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We're communicating the kids about how can we deal

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with those peer pressure?

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How can we deflect?

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How can we change the subject?

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How can we communicate with our parents

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if we feel like someone's trying to peer pressure me

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into something?

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So that's something that we are actively talking

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with the children about anytime we get a chance

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to be in the classroom.

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Fun fact though, like when we talk about peer pressure

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and we talk about, you know, alcohol and drugs specifically, you know, a lot of kids,

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when you talk with them, they say, well, is that something that all these kids are doing?

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We're actually finding that it's not something that kids, kids are actually, you know, resisting

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this at most. They really are. But sometimes they feel that other kids are doing it

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more, so that kind of brings them, getting them peer pressured into it.

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So it's really communicating with them, and we do this a lot, is communicating with them

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saying, listen, a lot of kids are resisting this.

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They know the health concerns that come along with these risky choices, and really communicating

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in that way, and communicating in the fact of giving them those choices.

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What are your choices?

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How are we deciding, you know, our choices of what to do, and then what are we

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after we're assessing it, how are we responding to it?

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So those are some of the strategies that we're using

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that could also get reinforced at home.

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So understanding the peer pressure side of things,

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something that we communicate with our high school kids

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is that they're one of their main complaints is,

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hey, how come I can't have more kids in the car

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with me at 16 years old or when I get my license?

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And it's because of these type of facts

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and it's trying to communicate to them that hey,

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this is the reason why.

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You can get distracted a lot.

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You can get peer pressured into playing that music loud,

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getting distracted, and then bad things can happen.

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So we talk with our high school kids

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about this anytime we get a chance.

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Countering, this is kind of where us

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as a village kind of help, right?

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It's creating that self-esteem.

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It's teaching those assertive skills.

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We do that a lot in DARE, where we do role-playing and we're trying to teach them, hey, if this

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was the situation, get in that group with your peers, what are some of the strategies

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that you can use?

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And then they're learning off of each other, like, oh, okay, I could do this, I could

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do that.

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And then they're going and they're role-playing it and then they're showing their peers

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how they can resist and how they can, you know, respond in a responsible way.

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So, a lot of times we try to get them to learn off of each other.

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Encouraging healthy friendships, sometimes those parents are really involved, right?

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It's trying to figure out, hey, are they with responsible kids of their peers?

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Are they hanging out with responsible ones and addressing it if you find out that,

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you know, maybe they're getting peer pressured in a negative way from those other peers.

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Setting clear expectations and limits is very important.

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The second we start, you know, shying away from that, you know, we can set clear expectations

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and then all of a sudden we're making one exception and then we're making another.

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We're kind of moving that goalpost and they realize that.

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And then they start moving it even more.

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That's something that we see a lot with kids who start kind of going down that road

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is that the goalpost kept moving and then they started moving the goalpost.

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And then it was difficult for the parent to try to get that goalpost back.

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So sticking to those clear expectations is important.

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Providing alternatives and then not being afraid to seek professional help.

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Sometimes when we're communicating with our families, they say, oh, I saw that sooner.

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I don't know why I didn't.

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It's a very common response.

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We're all sometimes afraid to say, when do I get help?

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Should I get it now or no, this is just an anomaly,

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maybe we hold off.

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that if I need some intervention now,

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we need professional help, just go with it.

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And communication, again, communicate,

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communicate, communicate.

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Very, very important for them to want to come to you.

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With that, we're going to move over to Officer Brian.

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Where's he at?

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And he's going to talk a little bit about some of those common substances that we've been

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So, hi.

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I'm Officer Brian.

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Officer Joe has this wonderful QR code right here.

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And throughout the presentation, it will pop up a couple of times and you can scan

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QR code with your camera on your phone and then you can type in a question and he'll get

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it and you can either leave your information on there or remain anonymous and we'll be able

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to maybe at the end answer some of those questions and if not we can, you know, get back to you

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on some of those questions. You've got a specific question about anything especially

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when Detective Tavis Campbell goes through because he is very technical.

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So, common, understanding common substances, we're going to take a look at what we are

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seeing in the schools and in the community.

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So obviously there's a lot more to cover, but this is primarily what we see.

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Vaping, both nicotine and marijuana, alcohol and then prescription drugs.

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So e-cigarettes and vapes.

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don't know if you know, but I know a lot of students don't realize this, that the

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product on the right has 41.3 to 68 milligrams of nicotine.

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The product on the left has 25 milligrams of nicotine.

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The average cigarette is 10 to 12 milligrams of nicotine.

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So, a lot of adults and kids think that this is a safe alternative to a cigarette.

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Take a look at the nicotine levels.

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Now, your body absorbs nicotine differently depending on it.

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There's a whole lot of factors, personal factors that have to do with how much your

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body absorbed nicotine, but 41 milligrams of nicotine.

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Just some examples.

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Some of them are refillable.

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Some of them are not refillable.

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Well,

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these are actually an example of stuff that we've confiscated off of kids.

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This is a THC vape pen.

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That's the cartridge on the left, your left, and it's replaceable, and it's very, very

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small, very easy to conceal.

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We see those.

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The marijuana available today has a significantly higher THC level than the marijuana that was

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available in the past. And just so everybody knows with the new marijuana laws and all

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that it is illegal to possess or use marijuana under the age of 21. Sometimes the kids think

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well it's legal and oh maybe I can use one I'm 18. Got to be 21.

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This ban went into

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effect in around October of last year.

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You see how like these products are all made

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to look like kids candy.

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So if you look closely it's what hubba-bubba, wild cherry, and Delta

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9, Delta 8, stuff in the jars, candy.

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You can't purchase this anywhere but a state-certified

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marijuana facility. These used to be available at gas stations. The new law says you can

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only get this in one of those state certified facilities. If you see candy in your kid's

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room or if they're driving in the car and the label is not quite right, you're looking

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at something that, you're like, oh, that label's not, take a look at the packaging.

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Because at first glance, you could easily mistake that for candy.

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And that's got very potent levels of THC in it.

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We're going to shift gears real quick back to vapes.

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I put this slide in here because all

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those chemicals, and I can't pronounce most of

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them, have been found in THC and regular nicotine vape dispensers.

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I don't know.

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I did not do very well in chemistry.

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Can

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you guys see the orange?

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Okay, so the orange compounds have been restricted by the FDA.

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And they're still in those vape pens,

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so these kids are potentially putting into their lungs.

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So if you're having a conversation, we're talking about communication.

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When you're having a conversation with your kids about this kind of stuff,

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that it is not a safe alternative to cigarettes.

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It delivers so much more nicotine than cigarettes do.

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and then look at all the chemicals they're putting in their bodies.

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These are at the high school.

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So they're in strategically placed areas in the high school.

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They do detect kids using vapes.

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And basically how it works, a vape detector goes off,

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the school administration gets a text message that a vape detector has gone off,

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they know the location of where that vape detector goes off,

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and then they start looking at cameras.

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cameras. And Officer Matt, how many cameras are in the high school?

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So if you're talking

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to your kids, you know, and you're discussing the dangers of vaping, there's also consequences

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and the high school is set up to detect the vapes and then you're always on camera.

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I like this slide as well. True or false? I think A is pretty good. We're seeing a

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decline in opioid use. We're moving in the right direction. Unfortunately, we're still

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more people are dying from drug overdoses than they are from car crashes.

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All these statements

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are true.

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D's better. Rates are dropping for high school seniors reporting using opioids

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for non-medical reasons. So some of these were trending in the right directions, but

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they're all still pretty high.

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We're talking about communication. You got to have these

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conversations with the kids. You've got to. Because you might have your prescription drugs

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locked up, you know, they're not accessible to the kids, but kids don't stay, you know,

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in our houses. They're visiting friends, relatives, grandma and grandpa. They have

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access to this stuff. So you've got to talk to your kids.

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That's section there

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about common substances.

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If you guys have any questions, scan that QR code,

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and we'll try to answer them.

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And I'm gonna turn it over to Detective Campbell.

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Thank you, Brian.

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Okay, I like to start by apologizing a little bit,

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because I get to talk about some of the dark, scary stuff

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that goes on on the Internet.

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Before I apologize for that, which I've already done,

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I do always want to reach out and tell you guys,

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the hardest working people we have in our agency

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see are school resource officers.

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They're in every school.

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I rarely see them.

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When they're done with the school year,

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they're doing safety city or they're doing training

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and then they're back in the school year

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and they're back in the schools.

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And there's a limited number of them

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and they seem to be everywhere all at the same time.

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So I wish we could have a whole bunch more of them.

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I know I could never be a school resource officer

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because I can't work that hard.

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So thank you guys.

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Again, my name is Tavis Campbell.

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I'm a detective.

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Can you guys hear okay?

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Is that the right temperature or right volume there?

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I'm a detective so I don't get the exposure that these guys are, they're kind of celebrities

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in the school.

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They show up to a room, everybody pays attention, I show up and they're like who's that guy?

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If you see me, it's probably not a great day, but most of the time I'm back at the

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police department and I'm around computer monitors.

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I've been in law enforcement for about 25 years, a little over 25 years, most of

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my law enforcement career, I've had a focus on some type of digital forensics.

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And the reason for that is criminals constantly use digital tools, cell phones.

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They're on computers.

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They have tablets.

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They're using skimmers, vehicles nowadays, all digital forensics.

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They use these to commit crimes.

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So somebody needs to investigate that and that's kind of where my passion comes in.

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So I do some peer review coaching for a couple organizations and volunteer my time to

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further digital forensics.

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Communication is going to be the key thing here, as we've talked a couple of times now.

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Because of what I do, my neighbors do know me well enough now.

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And my kids are teenagers, like the chief said.

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I've got kids, too.

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I've got a middle schooler and I've got a high schooler.

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And the neighbors around me, their kids are a little younger.

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So they're all getting to that age where they get that question, can I have a cell

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phone?

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Can I have a cell phone?

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Well, they know I do cell phone and digital forensics.

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Hey, Tavis, what about this?

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Hey, Tavis, what about this?

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Hey, Tavis, what about this?

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So I'm constantly getting asked what my recommendations are

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for all the different questions

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that you all have to deal with,

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that we have to deal with,

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that our parents didn't have to deal with,

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and nobody gave us a manual to say,

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how old is it?

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Should I give my kid a phone?

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What are they allowed to do on the phone?

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How do I monitor what they do on the phone?

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So we're gonna kind of go over some of that stuff.

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Hopefully I can help you out a little bit tonight,

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not scare you too bad.

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So here's a couple of analogies.

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These are my beliefs.

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Would you allow your kid to drive a car?

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No lessons.

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I'm going through teaching my daughter to drive right now,

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and it's a little terrifying.

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But we're learning, right?

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You take them to the parking lot.

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We drive slow, real slow.

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There's a little screaming and a little sweating,

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but we start it slow, right?

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Would you do that for a kid?

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No.

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You teach them how to drive.

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If anybody here likes to camp, you know,

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you take your kid out into the middle of the woods,

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drop them off with a pack of matches and say,

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hey, I'm gonna pick you up at the end of the weekend.

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Good luck, love camping.

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No, you teach them how to camp, right?

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Same thing with cell phones.

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No matter how hard we try, at some point in time,

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our kids are gonna be on a device.

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They're gonna have social media at some point in time.

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So my theory is, let's teach them.

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What's the right way to teach them?

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What's the right way to be on social media?

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What's the responsible way to be on social media?

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So some of the things I recommend are,

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let's start them off on the right foot, talk early.

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If you haven't already, it's never too late.

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Start talking to them about this.

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This is that open communication.

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And I know sometimes it's hard

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because your kids come from school.

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Hey, what'd you do today?

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Nothing.

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How are you doing?

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Fine.

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How was practice?

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Good.

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You know, it's tough.

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They don't want to talk to you,

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But you got to keep having those dialogues, right?

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That's just what you have to do with teenagers.

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Establish those boundaries and expectations.

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Boundaries for me, there are no cell phones in bedrooms.

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There's a charging station downstairs.

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Night time, that's where they go.

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There's no Chromebooks in bedrooms.

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So those are those boundaries.

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If you have social media, I know your username,

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I know your password.

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Those are those boundaries that you set early on.

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And then we talk about, what's it a responsible person on social media?

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Just get to them before they get in that digital world.

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Because Lord knows we don't want somebody else teaching them that.

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And there's plenty of people online that would like to teach them.

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So these are the most common social media platforms that kids are using as it stands right now.

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And other than Google Docs, that's the order

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in their popularity, YouTube's number one.

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And if anybody here has kids, we all know,

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man, they sit there on the YouTube,

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and they just flip those little reels

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over and over and over again, consuming that media.

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Screen times is important,

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try to limit them to that stuff.

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Snapchat, I'm gonna go into Snapchat here a little bit,

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show you a couple of the hidden dangers there.

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TikTok, I mean, there's some parental controls

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in there, not many, just like Snapchat,

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kind of useless. Instagram, most of our sex torsion cases are coming out of

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Instagram right now. We're gonna go into that a little bit deeper. Google Docs, and

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I know this one always kind of shocks people, but Google Docs is one of the

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biggest social media or at least communication platforms for your kids.

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And the reason for that is because they all have it on their school

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devices. So what they do is they open up a Word doc or a Google doc and they start typing.

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They share that with all their friends in their grade or in their classroom or the six

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kids that they want to talk to. And then they can use that Google doc and they can

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edit it together just like a chat room. Well you need to make sure you know. I know

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Dr. Cockley is back here somewhere. They can see it all. The schools can see everything

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everything that goes on in those Google Docs. And that's something you need to let your

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kids know. Hey, we know you guys talk on your Google Docs. You're talking about homework.

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Don't do anything dumb on there, because there are school consequences for some of the things

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that have happened. And unfortunately, I've had to be part of some of those school consequences.

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So Google Docs is a little bit of a weird one. So let's talk about Snapchat a little

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bit.

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If you didn't know, this is kind of like those old spy movie notes. This

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message is going to self destruct in, you know, two seconds after you read it.

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Right out of the gate, Snapchat is set up 24 hours after that sent, it's gone.

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So you let your kids have Snapchat, you're not going to read their messages.

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And they're smart, too.

472
00:29:39,490 --> 00:29:40,210
These kids are smart.

473
00:29:40,770 --> 00:29:43,990
They have AI now to tell them how to set this stuff up so their parents don't see

474
00:29:43,990 --> 00:29:44,310
stuff.

475
00:29:44,970 --> 00:29:48,150
They can set it to delete that message after it's been viewed.

476
00:29:48,810 --> 00:29:53,710
So, even if you're a good parent, you're staying on top of that stuff, they can delete it very quickly.

477
00:29:57,540 --> 00:29:59,420
This is called My Eyes Only.

478
00:30:01,140 --> 00:30:05,680
They can hide media in here. So, let's say you allow them to have Snapchat.

479
00:30:06,540 --> 00:30:12,920
My recommendation is you do not set my eyes only. So, there's a pin passcode there.

480
00:30:13,540 --> 00:30:19,400
They can set that up. The parental features in Snapchat. They don't allow you to disable this.

481
00:30:19,620 --> 00:30:23,100
They don't care. They want you to use this type of stuff. That's how they monetize their platform.

482
00:30:24,020 --> 00:30:27,180
And let's say you get on your parents' phone or your kid's phone and you're like,

483
00:30:27,180 --> 00:30:29,200
Like, oh, they set the pin, but I bet you I know what it is

484
00:30:29,200 --> 00:30:30,360
and you put the pin in incorrectly,

485
00:30:31,580 --> 00:30:32,540
takes a picture of you.

486
00:30:36,300 --> 00:30:37,200
Tell you how I know this.

487
00:30:37,960 --> 00:30:39,520
I do all of our digital forensics.

488
00:30:40,200 --> 00:30:41,360
I got a phone one day.

489
00:30:41,760 --> 00:30:43,740
I asked the officer, I said, do you do anything with this?

490
00:30:43,920 --> 00:30:45,380
Nope, I need to know that.

491
00:30:45,700 --> 00:30:46,860
Have you altered this in any way?

492
00:30:47,180 --> 00:30:47,940
Nope, okay, good.

493
00:30:48,620 --> 00:30:50,960
So I download the phone, the bad guy's phone,

494
00:30:51,340 --> 00:30:54,780
and all of a sudden there's a police officer's face

495
00:30:54,780 --> 00:30:56,040
on that phone and I'm like, oh,

496
00:30:56,520 --> 00:30:57,700
didn't touch the phone, did ya?

497
00:30:57,700 --> 00:30:59,640
It wasn't him, it wasn't him.

498
00:31:00,860 --> 00:31:08,280
Something to be aware of though, so we're going to go over some of the case trends here.

499
00:31:09,020 --> 00:31:10,420
Sex distortion is a big one.

500
00:31:10,800 --> 00:31:14,180
This is a large problem on social media.

501
00:31:15,340 --> 00:31:17,780
The big media companies are trying to combat this.

502
00:31:18,120 --> 00:31:18,800
It's very tough.

503
00:31:19,160 --> 00:31:22,600
That's why we talk to you and we talk to your kids about it.

504
00:31:22,600 --> 00:31:28,620
So, Officer Logan I talked to all the sixth grade, all the seventh grade, and all the eighth grade

505
00:31:28,620 --> 00:31:30,880
about sex distortion this last year.

506
00:31:30,920 --> 00:31:32,900
And I think it's something that we're probably going to do every single year.

507
00:31:35,340 --> 00:31:37,500
So, sex distortion is an online crime.

508
00:31:38,000 --> 00:31:44,880
This is when an adult threatens a minor, coerces them into either providing sexually explicit images,

509
00:31:45,620 --> 00:31:50,360
videos, something of that nature, and then they're typically going to turn around

510
00:31:50,360 --> 00:31:52,020
and they're going to ask for money.

511
00:31:52,020 --> 00:31:53,560
That's generally how this happens

512
00:31:54,640 --> 00:31:58,440
You're gonna have to talk to your kids about this and I strongly encourage it

513
00:31:58,440 --> 00:32:03,860
And it's gonna be an uphill battle because what are they gonna tell you, you know, oh, I'm careful

514
00:32:03,860 --> 00:32:07,360
I'm I don't friend anybody on snap that I don't know. I'm not gonna fall for that

515
00:32:08,720 --> 00:32:11,480
I'm not that stupid. I wouldn't send pics to anybody and

516
00:32:12,820 --> 00:32:17,340
The excuses keep going on and on you'd need to stay on and we need to communicate again

517
00:32:17,340 --> 00:32:20,840
We talk about communication over and over again, so let's talk about how this happens

518
00:32:21,400 --> 00:32:24,960
So, sex distortion, as I said lately, we've seen a ton on Instagram.

519
00:32:25,160 --> 00:32:27,420
It's going to start on one of these platforms.

520
00:32:27,980 --> 00:32:29,420
So this is Discord over here.

521
00:32:29,700 --> 00:32:33,640
It's a big gaming platform where they like to talk and chat in big groups called servers.

522
00:32:34,900 --> 00:32:36,060
Facebook, not so much.

523
00:32:36,140 --> 00:32:39,460
That's kind of the old people social media, so you don't see too many kids on there

524
00:32:39,960 --> 00:32:40,640
and Instagram.

525
00:32:40,980 --> 00:32:46,700
So these conversations start on Instagram, and then they generally jump off of Instagram.

526
00:32:46,700 --> 00:32:49,080
And the reason they jump off these media platforms

527
00:32:49,580 --> 00:32:52,180
is because the platforms are trying to combat this.

528
00:32:52,400 --> 00:32:55,300
So they have filters and they have AI bots

529
00:32:55,300 --> 00:32:57,760
that are going through all these chats

530
00:32:57,760 --> 00:32:59,700
and trying to find the sex distortion.

531
00:33:00,140 --> 00:33:01,620
So what they usually do is they jump off

532
00:33:01,620 --> 00:33:05,920
to like telegram or signal or iMessage to go one-on-one.

533
00:33:07,220 --> 00:33:11,780
So the bait generally starts, they get a message,

534
00:33:12,480 --> 00:33:16,040
hey, I think you're cute, or hey, don't I know you?

535
00:33:16,040 --> 00:33:23,080
It's just that person out of the blue that says, hey, I know you and you this is where you talk to your kids

536
00:33:23,080 --> 00:33:28,060
And I talked to my daughter who's on Instagram. I'm like how many people have reached out to you that you don't know

537
00:33:28,060 --> 00:33:32,180
She goes a few so it's happening over and over again

538
00:33:32,740 --> 00:33:35,740
And they try to engage them and usually what happens is

539
00:33:37,260 --> 00:33:44,020
They send an image hey, this is me if it's a teenage boy, which is what the majority of these are

540
00:33:44,020 --> 00:33:48,280
it's a pretty girl in a semi-state of undress.

541
00:33:48,980 --> 00:33:50,140
Don't you think I'm pretty?

542
00:33:50,560 --> 00:33:52,020
I think you're great.

543
00:33:52,740 --> 00:33:53,820
And what happens next?

544
00:33:54,100 --> 00:33:55,200
Then they start saying, hey,

545
00:33:58,240 --> 00:33:59,200
send me something.

546
00:34:00,220 --> 00:34:03,060
You know, and this doesn't happen overnight.

547
00:34:03,600 --> 00:34:05,080
It can happen over two weeks

548
00:34:05,080 --> 00:34:08,000
where they start gaining the rapport of your kid

549
00:34:08,520 --> 00:34:10,720
and they start asking, the flattery keeps going,

550
00:34:10,820 --> 00:34:11,700
they're looking at your friends.

551
00:34:11,820 --> 00:34:13,200
Oh, I saw Sophia did this.

552
00:34:13,200 --> 00:34:15,960
they are very smart, and this is a big enterprise.

553
00:34:16,760 --> 00:34:19,260
So once they gain that trust, that's where they ask

554
00:34:19,260 --> 00:34:21,800
that photo of them in a state of nudity,

555
00:34:22,040 --> 00:34:24,020
or performing some sexual act.

556
00:34:24,800 --> 00:34:28,340
Once they have that media, they spring this trap.

557
00:34:29,260 --> 00:34:31,680
This is an actual message that came

558
00:34:31,680 --> 00:34:33,680
from a sex distortion case.

559
00:34:34,480 --> 00:34:36,900
So send me $500 from your cash app,

560
00:34:37,500 --> 00:34:38,940
or I'm gonna ruin your life.

561
00:34:39,300 --> 00:34:40,920
All your friends are gonna see your pics.

562
00:34:41,560 --> 00:34:44,280
Your life's going to be over if I don't get my money.

563
00:34:44,920 --> 00:34:50,800
And they generally send you a picture of all your friends and family.

564
00:34:51,720 --> 00:34:57,060
They usually focus on grandmas, grandpas, cousins, like people in your family,

565
00:34:57,260 --> 00:34:59,500
something that's really going to be impactful for them.

566
00:34:59,840 --> 00:35:01,540
And then they're going to ask you to send money.

567
00:35:02,880 --> 00:35:07,500
Cash app, Google, Apple Pay, Zelle, Venmo.

568
00:35:07,940 --> 00:35:13,120
And I mean, I don't know about you, my kids have very limited access to any, they don't

569
00:35:13,120 --> 00:35:15,780
have any of these platforms to give that money over.

570
00:35:16,260 --> 00:35:18,500
So they're going to start asking for other things like gift cards.

571
00:35:19,000 --> 00:35:23,900
I know of a case in Hudson where a kid was riding his bicycle to Street'sboro to buy

572
00:35:23,900 --> 00:35:26,720
gift cards for scammers and riding his bicycle back.

573
00:35:27,380 --> 00:35:31,140
That's how bad it was because he was terrified that this stuff was going to be sent out

574
00:35:31,140 --> 00:35:33,700
and the guys are absolutely ruthless on it.

575
00:35:35,040 --> 00:35:38,960
So, these are some of the risks of being victimized that we really worry about the kids.

576
00:35:39,520 --> 00:35:41,240
And we're going to talk about how to combat that.

577
00:35:41,460 --> 00:35:45,680
But out of all these, I'm telling you right now, lost their reputation.

578
00:35:46,420 --> 00:35:49,780
Kids are terrified, you know, what's this going to do to me at school?

579
00:35:50,520 --> 00:35:52,020
They're not going to want to tell anybody.

580
00:35:52,380 --> 00:35:56,260
And that's where we need to make sure that we're telling them you need to talk

581
00:35:56,260 --> 00:35:56,720
to us.

582
00:35:57,120 --> 00:35:58,620
They are terrified of all these.

583
00:35:59,180 --> 00:35:59,980
Suicidal ideation.

584
00:35:59,980 --> 00:36:04,520
That's a, that's a big one, uh, social isolation and then of course, emotional trauma.

585
00:36:06,100 --> 00:36:12,280
So close to home here, uh, this is James Woods in 2022 is contacted on Instagram by a scammer

586
00:36:12,280 --> 00:36:16,480
with a fake profile 24 hours later, 24 hours.

587
00:36:16,880 --> 00:36:17,580
He was dead.

588
00:36:19,160 --> 00:36:20,520
This kid committed suicide.

589
00:36:20,880 --> 00:36:23,520
He was just an American kid, man.

590
00:36:23,640 --> 00:36:26,240
Right next door here, streetsboro, right over there.

591
00:36:27,280 --> 00:36:34,900
And James said, I think in the bottom there always gives me goosebumps, you know, he said he felt like he was stuck in an unavoidable loop for the rest of his life.

592
00:36:35,800 --> 00:36:40,920
We're talking about a kid here, man. He did not know. He didn't have the wisdom to know.

593
00:36:41,760 --> 00:36:45,540
And I don't know that his parents talked to him about it. From what I understand, they did.

594
00:36:45,900 --> 00:36:54,520
But we need to communicate with our kids because 24 hours, this kid went from normal to often himself because of sex distortion.

595
00:36:57,400 --> 00:36:59,020
I double click there.

596
00:36:59,980 --> 00:37:03,980
So the other one is down in Columbus, Brayden Marcus.

597
00:37:04,720 --> 00:37:05,840
Same exact thing, 15.

598
00:37:06,660 --> 00:37:11,720
Mother said he was having an amazing weekend of football, just a football player, back in

599
00:37:11,720 --> 00:37:12,220
2021.

600
00:37:13,640 --> 00:37:16,160
24 hours later, he died by suicide.

601
00:37:16,840 --> 00:37:18,840
Turns out, sex torsion.

602
00:37:20,440 --> 00:37:21,880
They think their lives are over.

603
00:37:22,220 --> 00:37:23,340
This is going to ruin me.

604
00:37:23,340 --> 00:37:26,500
My friends are never gonna talk to me again. I'm never gonna get to play in the football team

605
00:37:26,500 --> 00:37:31,280
I'm gonna be embarrassed forever when you and I all know, okay, this is a bump in the road

606
00:37:32,020 --> 00:37:36,880
We can get through this, but we need to be talking to our kids about this. It's it's no joke

607
00:37:38,560 --> 00:37:43,380
Okay, so we're being sex-storted. What do I do now? I

608
00:37:43,380 --> 00:37:45,180
would harp on

609
00:37:45,900 --> 00:37:53,060
Tell a trusted adult and that trusted adult thing is kind of important because they might not trust

610
00:37:53,340 --> 00:38:00,660
us to freak out because I'm a parent sometimes I don't react appropriately when my kids tell

611
00:38:00,660 --> 00:38:05,940
me something they did so maybe they you can take and talk to your aunt I know you love

612
00:38:05,940 --> 00:38:12,120
your aunt but whoever it is maybe it's a school resource officer maybe it's a principal that

613
00:38:12,120 --> 00:38:18,320
you like tell anybody a trusted adult that is the number one thing that I'm gonna say

614
00:38:18,320 --> 00:38:24,180
here. The next one is don't panic, we're going to stop talking to them, but if you have this at home

615
00:38:24,180 --> 00:38:32,460
we're going to block that. And the last one is if we can preserve evidence, great. But most importantly

616
00:38:32,460 --> 00:38:37,600
let's get them to communicate with us about this stuff. Preserving the evidence can help us later,

617
00:38:37,820 --> 00:38:45,740
that helps me. Most of these scammers are in Southeast Asia. Some of them are in India,

618
00:38:45,740 --> 00:38:47,680
but most of them are coming out of Southeast Asia.

619
00:38:48,320 --> 00:38:51,140
I have not had any personally that I've been able

620
00:38:51,140 --> 00:38:53,380
to prosecute here in the United States.

621
00:38:54,000 --> 00:38:55,120
We do work with the FBI,

622
00:38:55,620 --> 00:38:57,200
and they've had a couple of cases locally,

623
00:38:57,340 --> 00:38:59,320
but for the most part, this is all overseas.

624
00:39:04,160 --> 00:39:06,140
And then I think as Joe was talking about,

625
00:39:06,640 --> 00:39:09,340
don't ever hesitate to seek that professional help.

626
00:39:11,690 --> 00:39:13,130
So this is something a little bit new.

627
00:39:13,770 --> 00:39:15,790
National Center for Missing and Exploited Children

628
00:39:16,370 --> 00:39:18,830
is an agency that we work with.

629
00:39:18,830 --> 00:39:23,410
and their number one issue that is starting to pop up

630
00:39:23,410 --> 00:39:25,670
is this generative artificial intelligence.

631
00:39:26,490 --> 00:39:27,350
I just call it AI.

632
00:39:27,830 --> 00:39:28,750
This is what they call it.

633
00:39:29,290 --> 00:39:31,890
This is a huge problem that's starting to pop up

634
00:39:31,890 --> 00:39:32,470
in our schools.

635
00:39:34,010 --> 00:39:36,790
So basically everybody here knows what AI is.

636
00:39:37,230 --> 00:39:39,770
We're all living in the same world.

637
00:39:40,510 --> 00:39:43,570
But what can happen is you can tell AI

638
00:39:43,570 --> 00:39:44,770
to make you something.

639
00:39:45,330 --> 00:39:46,950
I want you to make this.

640
00:39:46,950 --> 00:39:50,470
and just based on your words, it makes a picture.

641
00:39:50,910 --> 00:39:53,370
And then it makes an amazingly realistic picture.

642
00:39:53,970 --> 00:39:55,750
I used it in my presentation here.

643
00:39:56,130 --> 00:39:57,430
This is a couple of years old.

644
00:39:58,170 --> 00:40:00,710
There's the prompt that I told that to make.

645
00:40:00,910 --> 00:40:01,490
And this is old.

646
00:40:01,770 --> 00:40:03,030
This is old technology here.

647
00:40:03,110 --> 00:40:04,990
It looks a lot better nowadays if I redid this.

648
00:40:05,810 --> 00:40:07,490
I put in there a couple of words.

649
00:40:07,710 --> 00:40:08,710
It generates that image.

650
00:40:09,670 --> 00:40:10,130
Same thing.

651
00:40:11,030 --> 00:40:12,430
You know, I put in a few words.

652
00:40:12,570 --> 00:40:13,130
It pops up.

653
00:40:14,130 --> 00:40:15,390
We'll go a little further here.

654
00:40:16,070 --> 00:40:17,430
I told it to make Joe Bald.

655
00:40:19,520 --> 00:40:20,840
I know you're sensitive about that.

656
00:40:21,560 --> 00:40:22,800
I'm sorry. I'm sorry.

657
00:40:24,860 --> 00:40:26,980
So why should I be concerned as a parent?

658
00:40:27,240 --> 00:40:28,040
And this is the reason.

659
00:40:28,760 --> 00:40:30,180
AI is being used to create

660
00:40:30,180 --> 00:40:32,600
sexually explicit and nude images

661
00:40:32,600 --> 00:40:34,220
using innocuous photos

662
00:40:34,720 --> 00:40:36,280
using these Nudify apps.

663
00:40:37,280 --> 00:40:38,160
This is that part right.

664
00:40:38,280 --> 00:40:40,160
I'm sorry. We kind of scary a little bit

665
00:40:40,160 --> 00:40:41,480
of what's going on out there today.

666
00:40:42,100 --> 00:40:43,160
But it's good to know.

667
00:40:43,860 --> 00:40:46,340
So the first one, they're using these tools

668
00:40:46,340 --> 00:40:50,440
tools to create the fake social media accounts that are reaching out to our kids.

669
00:40:51,300 --> 00:40:57,080
I literally had a case this last week where we looked into a kid's device because things

670
00:40:57,080 --> 00:41:01,320
were happening and they asked for our assistance and I looked at all the different followers

671
00:41:01,320 --> 00:41:05,160
and all the accounts that are surrounding this social media account.

672
00:41:06,120 --> 00:41:09,180
The images on there were amazingly accurate.

673
00:41:09,740 --> 00:41:13,400
We found one image where a person was holding a phone and they only had three fingers.

674
00:41:13,760 --> 00:41:13,960
Boom.

675
00:41:14,140 --> 00:41:14,700
That was our AI.

676
00:41:15,160 --> 00:41:16,660
everything else looked amazing.

677
00:41:16,900 --> 00:41:18,740
I mean, you cannot tell the difference

678
00:41:18,740 --> 00:41:20,680
between a real photo and these.

679
00:41:20,940 --> 00:41:24,500
And these scammers are using these social media platforms,

680
00:41:25,040 --> 00:41:26,700
generating these images over and over

681
00:41:26,700 --> 00:41:28,580
to make it look like a normal social media account.

682
00:41:28,660 --> 00:41:30,180
So when they reach out to your kid and say,

683
00:41:30,660 --> 00:41:31,760
hey, I think you're really cute,

684
00:41:31,860 --> 00:41:33,320
hey, just look at my profile

685
00:41:33,320 --> 00:41:34,500
and they're going through these photos,

686
00:41:35,100 --> 00:41:36,740
they can have it made look like

687
00:41:36,740 --> 00:41:37,820
they're sitting on Hudson's Green.

688
00:41:38,380 --> 00:41:39,480
It's absolutely terrifying.

689
00:41:40,140 --> 00:41:41,000
So we wanna make sure

690
00:41:41,000 --> 00:41:42,560
that they know who they're talking to.

691
00:41:45,280 --> 00:41:47,660
This is actually probably one of the scariest ones for me

692
00:41:47,660 --> 00:41:50,020
because the sex torsion that we just talked about,

693
00:41:51,160 --> 00:41:53,860
they had to send an image for that sex torsion to happen.

694
00:41:55,100 --> 00:41:56,740
Now they're using the innocuous images

695
00:41:56,740 --> 00:41:57,720
that are posted online

696
00:41:58,300 --> 00:42:00,640
and they're making sexually explicit photos

697
00:42:01,160 --> 00:42:02,960
and then they're using those to sex sort the kids

698
00:42:03,400 --> 00:42:04,080
right out of the gate.

699
00:42:04,220 --> 00:42:05,400
So they don't even have to send the image.

700
00:42:06,700 --> 00:42:08,360
Can I see why I apologize here?

701
00:42:10,020 --> 00:42:12,440
Bullying is probably the number one out of all of this.

702
00:42:13,380 --> 00:42:14,160
Kids are kids.

703
00:42:14,160 --> 00:42:15,860
They do things and they think that they're funny.

704
00:42:16,620 --> 00:42:19,500
So they'll go use an image of a friend

705
00:42:20,040 --> 00:42:21,340
and they'll put it on social media

706
00:42:21,860 --> 00:42:23,780
or they'll text it to their friend group

707
00:42:23,780 --> 00:42:25,740
and say, hey, look at what Billy was doing

708
00:42:25,740 --> 00:42:27,940
when in reality it's an AI generated image.

709
00:42:30,170 --> 00:42:31,430
So what can I do as a parent?

710
00:42:33,310 --> 00:42:35,090
That's a lot of stuff that I just gave you there.

711
00:42:36,230 --> 00:42:38,050
There's actually a tool that you can use

712
00:42:38,050 --> 00:42:39,970
and this is called Take It Down

713
00:42:39,970 --> 00:42:41,110
and this is by NecMec,

714
00:42:41,250 --> 00:42:42,810
National Center for Missing Exploited Children.

715
00:42:42,810 --> 00:42:48,570
And that QR code right there takes you to it, or you could just Google it if you wanted to.

716
00:42:49,110 --> 00:42:54,830
So let's say one of our kids sends an image of themselves in a state of nudity or in dress

717
00:42:54,830 --> 00:43:00,010
or performing a sexual act. You can go to that website and you can go to take it down.

718
00:43:00,590 --> 00:43:06,170
And what they'll do is they'll take a digital thumbprint of that video or that image

719
00:43:06,590 --> 00:43:12,270
and they'll upload that to their database and they'll give that to all the big participating platforms.

720
00:43:12,270 --> 00:43:15,930
And if anybody else has that, they take that, they take that image down.

721
00:43:16,930 --> 00:43:17,890
So how it works,

722
00:43:20,060 --> 00:43:22,040
sort of the chief said I was doing the technical stuff here.

723
00:43:22,940 --> 00:43:25,060
Nothing is uploaded to Necmac.

724
00:43:25,420 --> 00:43:31,620
You are not sharing the image or video, you're not uploading it to another website.

725
00:43:32,040 --> 00:43:33,220
It stays on your device.

726
00:43:33,620 --> 00:43:38,300
So what they do, every image, every media file has a bunch of zeros and ones.

727
00:43:39,060 --> 00:43:43,300
What they do is on your phone, they take this and they run it through this little

728
00:43:43,300 --> 00:43:48,560
algorithm. All those zeros and ones that make up your photo are run through the algorithm

729
00:43:48,560 --> 00:43:52,720
and then it gives you this value. This is called a hash value. It's something pretty

730
00:43:52,720 --> 00:43:58,400
regular that we use in digital forensics and a lot of IT sources. So what they do

731
00:43:58,400 --> 00:44:04,300
is they take that hash value, you share it with NECMEC, and then they give it to

732
00:44:04,300 --> 00:44:08,740
all the participating platforms. So if you were to upload that image, and that bad

733
00:44:08,740 --> 00:44:10,440
That guy had it on his Instagram account.

734
00:44:11,920 --> 00:44:13,740
Metta, who owns Instagram, would go,

735
00:44:13,840 --> 00:44:15,580
hey, that's that file.

736
00:44:15,760 --> 00:44:16,760
It's got that digital fingerprint.

737
00:44:17,540 --> 00:44:19,880
They shut that account down, they take that image down,

738
00:44:20,000 --> 00:44:22,120
and then they actually generate something called a cyber tip,

739
00:44:22,520 --> 00:44:24,700
which eventually if the suspects in Hudson

740
00:44:24,700 --> 00:44:26,400
would be forwarded to me in Hudson

741
00:44:26,400 --> 00:44:27,340
and we would investigate.

742
00:44:28,020 --> 00:44:29,260
So I just want to be clear.

743
00:44:29,600 --> 00:44:32,120
Take it down as one of the best tools out there.

744
00:44:32,560 --> 00:44:35,760
If you accidentally share something and you keep it,

745
00:44:35,860 --> 00:44:37,640
this is that preservation part that we talked about,

746
00:44:38,100 --> 00:44:39,420
it can be taken down.

747
00:44:43,040 --> 00:44:44,340
So what do I do?

748
00:44:44,720 --> 00:44:46,200
How do I monitor my kids' devices?

749
00:44:47,320 --> 00:44:48,920
There's a couple different ways to do it,

750
00:44:48,980 --> 00:44:53,320
and I could probably do a one-week class for parents

751
00:44:53,320 --> 00:44:55,840
on how to monitor your kids' devices,

752
00:44:55,920 --> 00:44:57,660
and I still wouldn't cover all those scenarios.

753
00:44:58,680 --> 00:44:59,980
So the first one you're going to have...

754
00:45:00,000 --> 00:45:03,220
We're going to have one of two different devices. You're either going to have a Google

755
00:45:03,220 --> 00:45:07,860
device or you're going to have an Apple device. Those are really the only two options out there.

756
00:45:08,760 --> 00:45:14,300
So operating system based monitoring. That means this comes baked into your phone when

757
00:45:14,300 --> 00:45:20,920
you get it and you turn it on the first day. Apple family and Android family link. I'm

758
00:45:20,920 --> 00:45:25,800
an Apple guy. That's just the phone that my kids wanted to use so I by default get

759
00:45:25,800 --> 00:45:34,140
to use Apple. It's good for regulating things like screen time or if they can install applications.

760
00:45:34,660 --> 00:45:41,880
You can lock that down. You can manage their contacts. You can manage overnight contacts,

761
00:45:42,120 --> 00:45:46,880
you know, who's their emergency contact. That's really kind of the global things that

762
00:45:46,880 --> 00:45:52,260
these tools allow you to do. They're kind of getting into the if there's risky photos

763
00:45:52,260 --> 00:45:54,820
those being sent, they'll send you a notification,

764
00:45:55,340 --> 00:45:56,860
hey, do you really think you should be sending that?

765
00:45:57,520 --> 00:45:59,820
But I know my daughter has gone like this before

766
00:46:00,240 --> 00:46:02,680
and it flags it and says, hey, that's a risky photo,

767
00:46:02,760 --> 00:46:03,540
don't send that stuff.

768
00:46:03,540 --> 00:46:04,900
So it's not 100% accurate.

769
00:46:05,600 --> 00:46:09,380
So those are good tools to use kind of as your baseline.

770
00:46:10,120 --> 00:46:12,000
Now, if you wanna go a little bit deeper

771
00:46:12,000 --> 00:46:13,920
and you're willing to pay a little bit of money,

772
00:46:14,780 --> 00:46:16,780
you can go into the third party applications.

773
00:46:17,880 --> 00:46:19,980
So I have experience with BARC.

774
00:46:19,980 --> 00:46:23,280
And I have to kind of give you a caveat here.

775
00:46:23,460 --> 00:46:24,680
I'm not endorsing any of these.

776
00:46:24,920 --> 00:46:26,280
I don't know the prices on them.

777
00:46:26,440 --> 00:46:29,640
And every single one of these is going to be work.

778
00:46:30,000 --> 00:46:33,540
Because every time a phone updates their operating system,

779
00:46:34,280 --> 00:46:34,680
something breaks.

780
00:46:35,660 --> 00:46:37,940
Every time Apple says, aha, you can't do that,

781
00:46:38,160 --> 00:46:38,820
something breaks.

782
00:46:39,340 --> 00:46:40,660
So you gotta be staying up on it.

783
00:46:40,740 --> 00:46:42,900
I will say it is hard work, okay?

784
00:46:43,480 --> 00:46:44,820
And Google is your friend.

785
00:46:45,160 --> 00:46:46,800
So if something breaks and you got a question,

786
00:46:47,420 --> 00:46:48,000
ask Google.

787
00:46:48,000 --> 00:46:51,440
Nowadays, you can ask chat GPT and it's pretty good as well.

788
00:46:52,160 --> 00:47:00,180
So what these are good for is kind of monitoring the social media and content of what your

789
00:47:00,180 --> 00:47:00,900
kids are doing.

790
00:47:01,640 --> 00:47:08,920
So you can put on, you know, for bark, you can do keywords, groups, some will be sexual

791
00:47:08,920 --> 00:47:14,880
nature, you could do profanity, suicidal ideation, you can turn all those flags on

792
00:47:14,880 --> 00:47:17,760
and it will send you alerts.

793
00:47:18,240 --> 00:47:19,560
It'll monitor the social media.

794
00:47:20,140 --> 00:47:22,480
Some of them allows you to control social media a little bit.

795
00:47:22,800 --> 00:47:25,680
It's a lot more granular and it gets into the phone

796
00:47:25,680 --> 00:47:26,740
and sends you notifications.

797
00:47:27,500 --> 00:47:29,240
Whereas the operating system-based ones

798
00:47:29,740 --> 00:47:31,200
will not send you those notifications.

799
00:47:32,320 --> 00:47:33,740
They'll send you the screen time requests

800
00:47:33,740 --> 00:47:34,900
over and over and over,

801
00:47:35,560 --> 00:47:37,880
but they're not gonna send you the notifications

802
00:47:37,880 --> 00:47:38,640
on what they're doing.

803
00:47:40,880 --> 00:47:42,380
And I put, this is a little older one,

804
00:47:42,420 --> 00:47:43,200
I didn't update this.

805
00:47:44,060 --> 00:47:46,260
When you start reading those text messages, good luck.

806
00:47:47,960 --> 00:47:49,900
It's hard to read what your kids say.

807
00:47:50,040 --> 00:47:53,860
Sometimes it's hard to understand what they're saying when they're talking to you and calling

808
00:47:53,860 --> 00:47:55,800
you bruh for the 30th time today.

809
00:47:57,320 --> 00:47:58,660
But Google's your friend.

810
00:47:59,600 --> 00:48:02,780
When you're looking at stuff and you're like, I don't know what this means.

811
00:48:03,560 --> 00:48:04,020
Google it.

812
00:48:04,420 --> 00:48:07,060
And usually somebody on there will explain it to you.

813
00:48:07,100 --> 00:48:10,800
I wouldn't do it on a work computer, but Google it, okay?

814
00:48:10,800 --> 00:48:15,940
Okay, all these words up here are things that I've had to look at and go, what does this

815
00:48:15,940 --> 00:48:16,180
mean?

816
00:48:16,940 --> 00:48:22,280
One of the ones I just learned about, if you see a bowl of noodles, pretty benign, right?

817
00:48:22,880 --> 00:48:23,240
Noodles?

818
00:48:23,480 --> 00:48:24,400
Why are you asking me for noodles?

819
00:48:24,540 --> 00:48:25,780
Maybe like ramen, you know?

820
00:48:26,520 --> 00:48:28,240
That's a short term for noodles.

821
00:48:29,940 --> 00:48:30,740
Noodles, noodles.

822
00:48:31,700 --> 00:48:35,660
So if you see somebody asking for a bowl of noodles, they're not asking for dinner.

823
00:48:39,460 --> 00:48:42,880
This is, again, this stuff will all be available later, too.

824
00:48:42,880 --> 00:48:46,820
This is a QR code that just comes back to some of the resources.

825
00:48:47,660 --> 00:48:51,060
I personally use a social media contract for my kids.

826
00:48:51,940 --> 00:48:53,040
My kids are on Snapchat.

827
00:48:53,700 --> 00:48:54,720
Much to my dismay.

828
00:48:55,740 --> 00:48:58,920
They do have, one of them's got Instagram.

829
00:48:59,700 --> 00:49:03,580
We have contracts, and these are the things that I lay out.

830
00:49:03,820 --> 00:49:04,940
We sign those contracts.

831
00:49:05,920 --> 00:49:11,640
In that QR code are those contracts that have places to write down user names, passwords.

832
00:49:12,860 --> 00:49:14,540
I'd like to say that I invented all this.

833
00:49:14,660 --> 00:49:16,340
No, I stole this stuff from somebody else too.

834
00:49:16,460 --> 00:49:17,420
Somebody else smarter than me.

835
00:49:18,020 --> 00:49:21,060
But I encourage you to do that if you're going to give your kids those options.

836
00:49:21,840 --> 00:49:26,340
If you have any questions, make sure you use that QR code there and submit them to me.

837
00:49:26,400 --> 00:49:27,400
I'll do the best I can.

838
00:49:27,980 --> 00:49:31,220
I'm not an expert on all of it, but I definitely try there.

839
00:49:31,780 --> 00:49:34,760
So I'm going to hand this off to Officer Price,

840
00:49:35,000 --> 00:49:36,700
and he's going to talk to you about the legal consequences.

841
00:49:36,860 --> 00:49:37,580
Thanks for your time tonight.

842
00:49:39,800 --> 00:49:40,860
Thank you, Tevis.

843
00:49:42,720 --> 00:49:49,480
Okay, so everybody in the room take a collective like deep breath for a second, okay, because

844
00:49:49,480 --> 00:49:55,220
obviously these guys throw a lot at you and it's a lot of, some of it's probably shock

845
00:49:55,220 --> 00:49:57,760
and all, but at the same time it's a lot to take in.

846
00:49:58,320 --> 00:50:03,720
Great stuff, but at the same time, I know as a parent you've got to kind of take a

847
00:50:03,720 --> 00:50:07,920
minute and be like, okay, none of this stuff has happened, just deal with it when we

848
00:50:07,920 --> 00:50:08,260
get there.

849
00:50:08,260 --> 00:50:13,440
So I'm the end, so we'll make this, I'll try and make it quick.

850
00:50:14,040 --> 00:50:16,680
When we talk about legal consequences for our kids,

851
00:50:18,140 --> 00:50:21,920
generally as a police department and with some accounting juvenile court,

852
00:50:22,440 --> 00:50:26,520
we try everything in our power to make sure that kids don't end up in the court system.

853
00:50:27,600 --> 00:50:32,180
We have a diversion program that myself and the other two SROs will run.

854
00:50:33,220 --> 00:50:39,320
Basically it's like a probation period where kids are kind of required to report into us.

855
00:50:39,480 --> 00:50:45,540
They do a lot of things under contract like you have to go to school, you have to go to appointments,

856
00:50:45,880 --> 00:50:50,600
you have to meet with us, you have to go to some training, that kind of thing.

857
00:50:51,140 --> 00:50:54,180
And I think we have found over time, it's a great program.

858
00:50:54,940 --> 00:50:56,440
Kids really respond well to it.

859
00:50:56,760 --> 00:50:59,900
It's that first initial scare like, okay, if I don't straighten out now,

860
00:51:00,340 --> 00:51:05,700
then I'm going to end up in Summit County Juvenile Court. So we've been, we've been

861
00:51:05,700 --> 00:51:10,400
really blessed with that. So I'm going to talk about open communications. Again,

862
00:51:10,600 --> 00:51:13,800
QR code, we're probably not going to have a whole lot of time to answer questions

863
00:51:13,800 --> 00:51:17,980
at the end, but we will be here afterwards and we can talk, but we are

864
00:51:17,980 --> 00:51:22,100
going to actually take all the questions and post them online and

865
00:51:22,100 --> 00:51:28,840
answer them. So back to talking about open communication. So open

866
00:51:28,840 --> 00:51:33,180
communication fosters an open and non-judgmental line of communication with your team. That

867
00:51:33,180 --> 00:51:38,740
is really hard to do as a parent. I'm a father of three, all girls, and I now have three

868
00:51:38,740 --> 00:51:44,980
grandchildren. So I am doing this whole thing all over again. It's not easy. Make them

869
00:51:44,980 --> 00:51:50,000
feel comfortable discussing experiences, concerns, and peers. Sometimes that's opening up

870
00:51:50,000 --> 00:51:53,520
to your own experiences. I mean, that's our own thing, right? We don't want them

871
00:51:53,520 --> 00:51:59,540
to make the mistakes that we made. So, trying that earlier is the better, talk with your

872
00:51:59,540 --> 00:52:06,920
kids every day. When I say earlier is the better, 9, 10 years old, don't be afraid to

873
00:52:06,920 --> 00:52:10,680
just start kind of say, hey, what do you know? Because you're going to find out they

874
00:52:10,680 --> 00:52:15,200
know more than you do, or they may know something that you're like, wow, how did you know that?

875
00:52:15,400 --> 00:52:18,920
Where did you hear that? And guess what I'm going to tell you, the bus is a scary

876
00:52:18,920 --> 00:52:25,620
place. So keep that in mind. And talk with them every day. That's sometimes hard because

877
00:52:25,620 --> 00:52:33,060
like Detective Campbell said, we get fine, okay. One thing that I've done is I tell my

878
00:52:33,060 --> 00:52:37,020
kids about my day, which kind of becomes interesting because they want to know about

879
00:52:37,020 --> 00:52:40,980
my day now because I'm not saying my day is interesting but it's, hey, what happened

880
00:52:40,980 --> 00:52:46,420
at school dad? And then they kind of are like, okay, well, I'll tell you about my

881
00:52:46,420 --> 00:52:50,440
day and you can tell me but so it's it's just trying to figure out what the what

882
00:52:50,440 --> 00:52:53,100
the secret cheat code is circle

883
00:52:55,300 --> 00:52:59,160
of trust right I'm not dating myself I hope

884
00:52:59,660 --> 00:53:05,160
anybody doesn't know what this is we can talk about it later so yes circle of

885
00:53:05,160 --> 00:53:13,140
trust so open communication talked about that just trying to let them feel like

886
00:53:13,140 --> 00:53:15,820
you have an open-door policy if they want to come in and talk they can come

887
00:53:15,820 --> 00:53:16,180
I'm going to talk.

888
00:53:17,160 --> 00:53:17,960
Establishing boundaries.

889
00:53:18,620 --> 00:53:21,080
Sometimes that conversation is sort of like what we have

890
00:53:21,080 --> 00:53:21,840
with the kids at school.

891
00:53:22,360 --> 00:53:23,980
Listen, this is between us.

892
00:53:24,360 --> 00:53:26,060
I'm not going to go out and tell other people,

893
00:53:26,540 --> 00:53:28,580
but at the same time, if you say something that's going

894
00:53:28,580 --> 00:53:30,440
to put me in fear or something that I got to worry

895
00:53:30,440 --> 00:53:32,980
about with you, like if we need to go find someone

896
00:53:32,980 --> 00:53:34,920
to talk to, we're going to go do that, okay?

897
00:53:36,040 --> 00:53:38,440
But establishing those boundaries and telling them that.

898
00:53:40,880 --> 00:53:42,780
Consistency, trying to do it every day.

899
00:53:43,160 --> 00:53:44,380
Not every day, every weekend.

900
00:53:45,500 --> 00:53:48,320
Sunday dinner, I don't know how many of us still do Sunday dinner.

901
00:53:48,420 --> 00:53:49,960
I try to do Sunday dinner with my kids.

902
00:53:51,120 --> 00:53:54,020
Hey, come home, tell me your stories, tell me what's going on in your life.

903
00:53:54,220 --> 00:53:56,260
If we need to figure something out, we can figure it out then.

904
00:53:57,960 --> 00:54:00,820
Respecting their privacy, that is super hard.

905
00:54:02,520 --> 00:54:05,120
I came from the age of let's take the door off, right?

906
00:54:05,600 --> 00:54:08,820
If you didn't have your door taken off in school, you guys are really good.

907
00:54:10,020 --> 00:54:16,840
But, nowadays, they live online, they go off into their rooms and we never see them again,

908
00:54:16,900 --> 00:54:20,200
but they're just on their phones, on their iPads, doing all the things that they do.

909
00:54:21,740 --> 00:54:26,060
Respecting that privacy helps in the end when you have to say, hey listen, open up to me,

910
00:54:26,240 --> 00:54:27,200
let's talk about this.

911
00:54:27,300 --> 00:54:32,380
Let me see your device, okay, and we're going to touch on what that's like.

912
00:54:33,580 --> 00:54:34,360
Building confidence.

913
00:54:34,360 --> 00:54:37,500
You know, if they make a good decision, tell them.

914
00:54:37,880 --> 00:54:39,940
Like, let them know, hey, that's awesome.

915
00:54:40,160 --> 00:54:41,520
I'm proud of you that you said no.

916
00:54:42,280 --> 00:54:43,620
I'm proud that you didn't do that.

917
00:54:43,720 --> 00:54:44,840
I'm proud you didn't take the bait.

918
00:54:45,760 --> 00:54:47,240
I'm proud that you made a good decision.

919
00:54:48,080 --> 00:54:50,160
Building that confidence goes a long way

920
00:54:50,160 --> 00:54:51,460
because then they want to come to you

921
00:54:51,460 --> 00:54:52,600
and they want to tell you those things.

922
00:54:54,780 --> 00:54:55,420
Emotional support.

923
00:54:56,920 --> 00:54:59,140
Like I told you guys, I'm a dad of three girls.

924
00:55:00,380 --> 00:55:01,680
There's a lot of crying in my house.

925
00:55:02,560 --> 00:55:07,700
Sometimes there's still a lot of crying in my house but emotionally I'm just there.

926
00:55:08,940 --> 00:55:15,140
I can't get mad, I try to be sad with them, sometimes I cry with them, but being that

927
00:55:15,140 --> 00:55:19,120
emotional support and being that person that they want to come to, that's all that makes

928
00:55:19,120 --> 00:55:19,860
a difference in the world.

929
00:55:21,620 --> 00:55:27,120
Encouraging independence, giving that open-ended, you can make a decision, I'm here if you

930
00:55:27,120 --> 00:55:27,360
fall.

931
00:55:27,780 --> 00:55:28,680
That's always how we've been.

932
00:55:30,480 --> 00:55:36,240
Model trustworthy behavior. Kind of showing them, hey, listen, I'm going to trust you

933
00:55:36,240 --> 00:55:41,300
with my information. I want you to trust me with yours. Sometimes that's hard to do.

934
00:55:41,740 --> 00:55:48,300
Hey, dad screwed up today, like, bad. You know, my daughters all know. Chief's mad

935
00:55:48,300 --> 00:55:53,800
at me today. I did something wrong. They're like, well, what'd you do? So, never terrible,

936
00:55:53,800 --> 00:55:59,600
but it does foster that you know trustworthy behavior and that way that communication comes through

937
00:56:00,540 --> 00:56:04,100
Understanding perspectives. This is the hardest thing to do

938
00:56:05,240 --> 00:56:09,020
These kids are so smart and so in tune with

939
00:56:09,020 --> 00:56:16,620
everything political and life and and they they have opinions and it's really good for us to try and understand them

940
00:56:17,300 --> 00:56:20,420
Even though we may be on the completely opposite end of everything

941
00:56:21,360 --> 00:56:34,920
I'm a police officer. I have very different views than some of my daughters that are on a different end, but we talk and we're able to communicate without judgment. And that's really the hardest part. But in the end, we're still family. We still come together in the end.

942
00:56:35,880 --> 00:56:47,620
Okay, last and not least crisis response. When that panic button gets pushed, you guys got to be ready. Detective Campbell showed you guys about take it down. Awesome thing to have.

943
00:56:48,960 --> 00:56:50,500
maybe it's just coming to the police department

944
00:56:50,500 --> 00:56:51,400
and talking to one of us.

945
00:56:52,260 --> 00:56:53,580
Maybe it's even picking up the phone

946
00:56:53,580 --> 00:56:54,880
and calling one of the SROs.

947
00:56:55,480 --> 00:56:58,080
We're in all the schools, just call the school and say,

948
00:56:58,120 --> 00:56:59,760
hey, can I speak to one of the SROs?

949
00:56:59,780 --> 00:57:00,860
They'll get you in contact with us.

950
00:57:01,600 --> 00:57:02,480
We're always there.

951
00:57:02,760 --> 00:57:05,780
We're always open to just even if you have questions,

952
00:57:06,360 --> 00:57:07,560
like, hey, I don't understand this

953
00:57:07,560 --> 00:57:09,120
and we can get you an answer, okay?

954
00:57:15,240 --> 00:57:17,840
So a very smart teacher here at the middle school

955
00:57:17,840 --> 00:57:21,580
loaned me this thing that she does every year

956
00:57:21,580 --> 00:57:23,000
with her kids in health class.

957
00:57:24,120 --> 00:57:27,960
She lets them say, I wish my parents knew, okay?

958
00:57:29,140 --> 00:57:30,020
Our kids have voices.

959
00:57:30,380 --> 00:57:31,800
I think sometimes we forget that.

960
00:57:32,000 --> 00:57:32,920
Sometimes that gets lost.

961
00:57:33,480 --> 00:57:35,280
But it's real important for us as parents

962
00:57:35,280 --> 00:57:36,900
to be able to listen to those voices

963
00:57:36,900 --> 00:57:38,460
and actually hear what they have to say.

964
00:57:40,420 --> 00:57:43,760
I wish my parents knew they were too reactive

965
00:57:43,760 --> 00:57:46,480
and did not outburst or avoid the problem.

966
00:57:46,480 --> 00:57:51,900
be calm please. I don't know how many of us got yelled at our parents when we were young,

967
00:57:52,180 --> 00:57:53,680
but kids don't like that.

968
00:57:56,430 --> 00:58:01,180
Okay. I wish my parents knew how to respect my personal boundaries,

969
00:58:01,740 --> 00:58:08,060
like closing my door or leaving my room or knocking before they come in. Father of three

970
00:58:08,060 --> 00:58:12,220
girls. I learned the value of knocking on the door before I come in because you want

971
00:58:12,220 --> 00:58:15,520
to set them off. That definitely makes them unhappy when you're not knocking.

972
00:58:20,560 --> 00:58:21,100
I wish

973
00:58:21,100 --> 00:58:23,320
I wish my parents knew that my worth isn't in my report card.

974
00:58:24,780 --> 00:58:26,220
I'm a graduate of Hudson High School.

975
00:58:26,700 --> 00:58:28,160
I went all the way through K-12.

976
00:58:29,220 --> 00:58:30,940
I know the pressure that these kids are under.

977
00:58:31,240 --> 00:58:32,080
I've seen it firsthand.

978
00:58:33,620 --> 00:58:35,940
They are much, much more than their report cards.

979
00:58:36,260 --> 00:58:38,400
And I think that's something we all have to understand

980
00:58:38,400 --> 00:58:41,640
and not probably take into effect because they're awesome.

981
00:58:41,960 --> 00:58:44,840
Every one of these kids that we deal with on a regular basis are awesome

982
00:58:44,840 --> 00:58:46,620
regardless of what their grades are.

983
00:58:47,060 --> 00:58:47,880
So I

984
00:58:54,630 --> 00:58:56,910
wish my parents knew I put on a fake smile every day

985
00:58:56,910 --> 00:58:58,170
and act like I'm okay.

986
00:58:59,170 --> 00:59:00,130
This is a perfect one.

987
00:59:00,450 --> 00:59:01,430
It's okay to not be okay.

988
00:59:02,210 --> 00:59:04,070
It's hard to get kids to understand that sometimes.

989
00:59:05,170 --> 00:59:07,290
I know that we have a lot riding on them

990
00:59:07,290 --> 00:59:08,450
and we want them to be happy,

991
00:59:08,970 --> 00:59:10,810
but if you're not okay, talk to me.

992
00:59:10,930 --> 00:59:11,450
Tell me about it.

993
00:59:11,570 --> 00:59:12,490
Let me help you be okay.

994
00:59:12,890 --> 00:59:14,690
And if I can't, we'll figure out somebody who can

995
00:59:14,690 --> 00:59:16,650
or we'll figure out what we need to do to get you there.

996
00:59:21,800 --> 00:59:23,500
I wish my parents knew how to give me time

997
00:59:23,500 --> 00:59:24,680
to process certain things.

998
00:59:26,160 --> 00:59:27,060
Kids are like this now.

999
00:59:27,180 --> 00:59:28,740
I think they like to sit and mull over things

1000
00:59:28,740 --> 00:59:30,280
things where we're just like give me an answer.

1001
00:59:34,600 --> 00:59:36,880
I wish my parents knew how not to turn everything

1002
00:59:36,880 --> 00:59:43,380
I say into a lesson. We all do that one, right? Like, you're going to learn a lesson today.

1003
00:59:46,420 --> 00:59:53,320
Okay. So real quick summary. Once you guys have awareness, education, prevention, monitoring

1004
00:59:53,320 --> 00:59:58,200
and supervision, healthy communicating and seeking professional health, our children

1005
00:59:58,200 --> 00:59:59,580
really truly and honestly

1006
01:00:00,000 --> 01:00:04,500
In our opinions, in us, we just want them to be heard and we want them to be loved and

1007
01:00:04,500 --> 01:00:11,480
I know you guys want the same. So, thank you. Again, there's the QR code. We appreciate you

1008
01:00:11,480 --> 01:00:15,900
guys being here. I'm going to let Laura kind of take over. But thank you for your time.

1009
01:00:19,290 --> 01:00:23,570
Thank you so much, Hudson Police Department. Hopefully you learned a lot. I would also

1010
01:00:23,570 --> 01:00:27,850
like to thank HCTV who filmed. So, if you are leaving and you're like, I wish all

1011
01:00:27,850 --> 01:00:34,870
my friends heard this. It will be out on HCTV in a few days and we'll try and put it

1012
01:00:34,870 --> 01:00:39,870
on our website as well so you can go to HCTV or go to Hudson Community First website and

1013
01:00:39,870 --> 01:00:44,210
find the video and you could go back on and see some of the information if it went

1014
01:00:44,210 --> 01:00:47,310
too fast for you or anything as well. So thank you again for coming. We appreciate

1015
01:00:47,310 --> 01:00:47,610
it.

1016
01:01:04,460 --> 01:01:06,280
And I've said in years past and I didn't

1017
01:01:06,280 --> 01:01:09,380
say it this year but when we went in to talk, I went in to talk to Perry about

1018
01:01:09,820 --> 01:01:13,840
potentially doing some sort of presentation, bringing someone in and asked if they wanted

1019
01:01:13,840 --> 01:01:17,120
to have a table at bringing in something from another police department. He's like,

1020
01:01:17,300 --> 01:01:21,160
we want to be the ones doing it. Are you kidding? We want to talk to our parents any chance

1021
01:01:21,160 --> 01:01:24,600
we get. So we appreciate all that they do. Thanks.