1 00:00:38,700 --> 00:00:53,620 Point to a survey. The average smartphone user scrolls a element of 78 miles a year. That's 3-marriage thoughts. Then you can exercise for your finger, but there was that incident maybe over the evening, right? The doctor asked a nice, high alert. 2 00:00:58,470 --> 00:01:11,190 The freshman at the University of North Carolina asked her, do you think that's a few days? Recently, we learned that what too much scrolling was due into her. How many hours are you standing here for? Oh God, I'm only waiting. 3 00:01:11,190 --> 00:01:11,990 I'm 4 00:01:14,800 --> 00:01:16,080 constantly on it. 5 00:01:16,240 --> 00:01:18,780 You may have heard stories that occurs before. 6 00:01:19,280 --> 00:01:25,680 It wasn't able to focus because I would have to take out my phone every couple of minutes. 7 00:01:26,080 --> 00:01:29,700 But now you can actually see the science behind it. 8 00:01:29,820 --> 00:01:31,820 It's our phones and why you're changing. 9 00:01:32,140 --> 00:01:32,620 It's all over. 10 00:01:33,040 --> 00:01:35,340 It specifically grows here and it tries there. 11 00:01:35,940 --> 00:01:40,080 The psychiatrist right now is applying this new science and new healthcare, 12 00:01:40,080 --> 00:01:44,280 health care, which is mental health treatment centers for teens across the country. 13 00:01:44,680 --> 00:01:46,860 This is the brain that's addicted to a spinal cord. 14 00:01:47,180 --> 00:01:53,160 These are MRI images from a recent study in Korea, although red indicates increases in 15 00:01:53,160 --> 00:01:56,220 brain activity, the effects of a smartphone addiction. 16 00:01:56,760 --> 00:01:58,320 Do you want the brain to be this colourful? 17 00:01:58,660 --> 00:01:58,880 You don't. 18 00:01:59,240 --> 00:01:59,500 Why? 19 00:01:59,900 --> 00:02:05,300 Well, because this is showing when the brain is working, extra hard, compared to another 20 00:02:05,300 --> 00:02:08,580 but it's great. What I have to do is actually recycle packs. 21 00:02:09,200 --> 00:02:13,400 And Dick and smartphone users' brains were so colorful, so active. 22 00:02:13,700 --> 00:02:16,580 It made them less authentic and more easily distracted, 23 00:02:17,180 --> 00:02:19,860 but it's now informally called brain-line. 24 00:02:20,360 --> 00:02:21,780 What does that look like in their life? 25 00:02:22,060 --> 00:02:23,600 Yeah, let's take got a school for example. 26 00:02:24,260 --> 00:02:28,460 So if you class and you're trying to focus they are going to be looking around 27 00:02:28,460 --> 00:02:31,760 and not attending so much of the features they are trying to resell. 28 00:02:32,240 --> 00:02:34,380 Dr. Nelson just in merchant research 29 00:02:34,380 --> 00:02:40,900 was even greater risk. We're just starting to see these changes and we know they're connected to behavioral 30 00:02:40,900 --> 00:02:45,520 changes, pressure, anxiety, but danger is far behind me in there. 31 00:02:45,820 --> 00:02:52,420 Sessionally and really influencing in a lot of ways. Tick-tock may kind of push these videos of 32 00:02:52,420 --> 00:03:00,340 think-o-cropping at an angle before school, and maybe I'll be cool when I start insulting somebody, 33 00:03:00,340 --> 00:03:04,340 to deal with that last year, she checked in through treatment, 34 00:03:07,120 --> 00:03:08,140 where she means that. 35 00:03:08,460 --> 00:03:10,760 I don't think I can hear. 36 00:03:14,880 --> 00:03:19,880 But for women treatment, there, she's been other outlets from joining to play guitar 37 00:03:19,880 --> 00:03:23,560 that help rewire her chances of raising it. 38 00:03:31,890 --> 00:03:35,730 When you're treating from the whole search of gender-expedimentality, 39 00:03:36,130 --> 00:03:39,590 the show that actually don't allow folks to recover, to feel better, 40 00:03:39,590 --> 00:03:40,110 and 41 00:03:48,200 --> 00:03:54,110 start servings of our in-actual non-canon line-up. 42 00:03:54,930 --> 00:04:00,450 Okay, it uses that nine hours a day and a phone now she is down to less than two for her. 43 00:04:03,750 --> 00:04:04,670 Good evening, gentlemen. 44 00:04:04,870 --> 00:04:12,750 Thank you for joining us for a session on cell phones and the impact it's having on our children. 45 00:04:13,410 --> 00:04:20,850 Even us as adults, parents, tonight we just want to present information to share information 46 00:04:20,850 --> 00:04:26,310 that has caused our best over the last two years or so mentioned 47 00:04:32,840 --> 00:04:34,800 a book, the ancient generation. 48 00:04:35,600 --> 00:04:38,260 And we have been trying to figure out what's going on with our students. 49 00:04:38,520 --> 00:04:41,340 We're seeing that some of this business point nine years ago, 50 00:04:41,420 --> 00:04:45,160 we're seeing a significant change in how our kids respond, behave, 51 00:04:45,460 --> 00:04:47,640 how they learn so forth and so on. 52 00:04:48,080 --> 00:04:51,780 And so I got the book read and read and read and started sharing with our principals, 53 00:04:52,000 --> 00:04:54,540 saying, we might be on something here, we might want to look at this. 54 00:04:54,540 --> 00:04:56,800 We, as a district, want to take a look at this, 55 00:04:57,220 --> 00:04:59,620 I'll talk about it in some of our principal duties. 56 00:05:00,240 --> 00:05:02,660 From there, principals started reading it. 57 00:05:02,780 --> 00:05:04,520 And so we see this every day. 58 00:05:04,620 --> 00:05:06,660 Our teachers are talking about this every day. 59 00:05:07,160 --> 00:05:11,140 And so, during that two-year period, Mr. Richard Moore, 60 00:05:11,340 --> 00:05:13,980 his assistant principal, was going to high school this past summer. 61 00:05:14,320 --> 00:05:19,700 I asked her to do a session or session for our teachers, 62 00:05:20,060 --> 00:05:22,040 to expose our teachers to what we were learning, 63 00:05:22,040 --> 00:05:26,420 to help them in the classroom to have a better understanding of our students, as this video 64 00:05:26,420 --> 00:05:32,260 said, the rewiring of the mind. Hearing students who went to rehab, 65 00:05:36,420 --> 00:05:38,260 things of that nature were 66 00:05:38,260 --> 00:05:43,240 seen in the school building when their attention savings were dropped and we're trying to 67 00:05:43,240 --> 00:05:49,800 educate. So it is a perfect storm in these ways, it's all something that involved them. 68 00:05:49,800 --> 00:05:50,160 and I'm 69 00:05:53,230 --> 00:05:55,230 going to advice, starting at various angles. 70 00:05:55,770 --> 00:05:57,030 Some very good angles, 71 00:06:01,550 --> 00:06:02,750 but when we know soon 72 00:06:12,120 --> 00:06:12,580 session, 73 00:06:12,800 --> 00:06:15,080 no way is a large-time school system, 74 00:06:15,660 --> 00:06:19,310 attempting to do this with children. 75 00:06:19,890 --> 00:06:22,290 All we want to do is bring it forward to you 76 00:06:22,290 --> 00:06:23,610 and share with you. 77 00:06:23,950 --> 00:06:25,590 And then you take the knowledge you do 78 00:06:25,590 --> 00:06:25,830 and 79 00:06:28,610 --> 00:06:31,270 a lot of people come in and apologize to play with. 80 00:06:31,530 --> 00:06:32,270 But it is a, 81 00:06:41,260 --> 00:06:42,900 it's the board with 82 00:07:03,320 --> 00:07:04,880 several retired teachers 83 00:07:09,810 --> 00:07:13,050 give you an outline of what we're going to do. 84 00:07:13,050 --> 00:07:20,050 I will speak for a few moments and I'm going to give you the presentation that if you 85 00:07:20,050 --> 00:07:23,600 would just teach us at the beginning of the year, 86 00:07:34,130 --> 00:07:36,510 how to read that, it is working your 87 00:07:44,990 --> 00:07:46,210 kids, good information, just 88 00:08:15,110 --> 00:08:16,610 seamlessly, when you want 89 00:08:22,140 --> 00:08:23,060 to do the things that 90 00:08:28,090 --> 00:08:28,570 we're seeing 91 00:08:28,570 --> 00:08:34,470 to shift in that, we're seeing more heads-down bone action than we are face-to-face interaction. 92 00:08:34,850 --> 00:08:40,950 We're seeing more challenges with our students in the classroom, and then you want to make 93 00:08:40,950 --> 00:08:52,530 If you're interacting with the world, you don't want your child to come to school or go to a job and then you can ask the lady to get down thumbs working, not communicate, not interact with them. 94 00:08:54,010 --> 00:08:55,230 So you're here, there's more important 95 00:09:02,460 --> 00:09:04,220 parent volume on buildings. 96 00:09:04,800 --> 00:09:07,660 If we were talking about that, ask us, it's led in the water. 97 00:09:08,560 --> 00:09:11,860 If all that was happening in the school, people would say, why don't you all do this? 98 00:09:12,020 --> 00:09:14,200 Why don't you bring this up earlier? Why didn't I know? 99 00:09:17,520 --> 00:09:20,080 But this public service announcement is about 100 00:09:23,600 --> 00:09:25,040 social media accounts are free. 101 00:09:25,260 --> 00:09:27,240 I spoke to a group the other day, and I asked them, 102 00:09:27,580 --> 00:09:30,500 I mean, times you have to take out your credit card, give it to your children, 103 00:09:30,500 --> 00:09:32,320 so they can read it and Facebook account. 104 00:09:32,800 --> 00:09:33,520 They would take time. 105 00:09:34,000 --> 00:09:35,480 They use your credit card and read it. 106 00:09:35,920 --> 00:09:37,120 And no hands went up. 107 00:09:37,440 --> 00:09:37,600 So 108 00:09:39,620 --> 00:09:40,140 it's free. 109 00:09:40,840 --> 00:09:41,760 But there's a cost. 110 00:09:42,620 --> 00:09:43,260 And there's a price. 111 00:09:43,840 --> 00:09:46,420 And we think as we need a little bit of this information tonight, 112 00:09:46,880 --> 00:09:49,760 that cost and that price is too high. 113 00:09:50,340 --> 00:09:55,900 And we just want you to have information and knowledge to go back and say we're going to put some of this down. 114 00:09:56,120 --> 00:10:00,580 We're going to do whatever it is. We think we need to do it. You're a parent. You haven't even got to sit here. 115 00:10:02,400 --> 00:10:07,500 This bill of cover across schools and communities, phones have become growing concerned. 116 00:10:08,180 --> 00:10:11,860 We've been talking about this for three or four years. We hear it all at the state. 117 00:10:12,000 --> 00:10:16,680 We talk about other superintendents of teachers, a lot of time on screens every day. 118 00:10:16,900 --> 00:10:17,740 And we're guilty of it. 119 00:10:17,740 --> 00:10:20,660 because the schools may have a license at home 120 00:10:20,660 --> 00:10:22,620 and their own devices throughout the day. 121 00:10:25,300 --> 00:10:26,400 Those are the small phones, 122 00:10:26,820 --> 00:10:28,300 reducing their attention spans, 123 00:10:30,610 --> 00:10:33,370 putting their worry negative impacts on mental 124 00:10:33,370 --> 00:10:34,810 and emotional little things that 125 00:10:43,540 --> 00:10:44,860 face the face and action. 126 00:10:45,020 --> 00:10:46,100 So if you communicate like we did, 127 00:10:46,220 --> 00:10:48,780 sitting around this room and hearing a lot from them, 128 00:11:00,060 --> 00:11:00,820 that would be a C-rate, 129 00:11:04,010 --> 00:11:04,890 academic engagement, 130 00:11:05,430 --> 00:11:05,770 just to 131 00:11:07,980 --> 00:11:09,500 address the amount of screen time, 132 00:11:09,900 --> 00:11:11,560 the influence on the developing minds, 133 00:11:11,880 --> 00:11:13,080 the developing minds, 134 00:11:14,640 --> 00:11:16,100 asbestos and all those other things, 135 00:11:16,700 --> 00:11:19,160 We're talking about their minds, their minds. 136 00:11:20,580 --> 00:11:23,640 Success both in the classroom and beyond. 137 00:11:24,040 --> 00:11:25,460 So when they come to us and believe us, 138 00:11:25,960 --> 00:11:27,280 they're believing us with what? 139 00:11:27,720 --> 00:11:29,160 What are we going to be preparing for? 140 00:11:29,360 --> 00:11:30,820 Or are we having more of their energy than themselves? 141 00:11:31,040 --> 00:11:33,380 So we hope to know a lot of that with you tonight. 142 00:11:33,940 --> 00:11:36,300 As I promised, this is more so I'm going to take it from here 143 00:11:36,820 --> 00:11:41,060 and give you the presentation that she shared with our faculty. 144 00:11:41,700 --> 00:11:43,740 Now we're happy to answer questions, 145 00:11:43,740 --> 00:11:49,700 but we do have a lot of information and we don't know if we have time or answer but we'll also 146 00:11:51,870 --> 00:11:53,290 share something with us. 147 00:11:53,590 --> 00:11:54,650 Thank you 148 00:11:57,370 --> 00:12:00,210 for being here tonight. 149 00:12:00,490 --> 00:12:06,570 There's a lot of other places you can be but we think this is a really important message and we thank you for being here. 150 00:12:07,090 --> 00:12:08,670 Isn't this just the 151 00:12:21,060 --> 00:12:22,440 interest generation book? 152 00:12:22,780 --> 00:12:28,100 I'm going to sum up this book with this slide presentation that I have. 153 00:12:28,100 --> 00:12:39,150 but I'm also going to bring some things to our attention that we all, we all discuss, 154 00:12:42,220 --> 00:12:48,280 there's nothing we can do about it. And I just want us to say we can do something about it. 155 00:12:48,920 --> 00:12:50,040 Over the summer, 156 00:12:53,980 --> 00:12:58,120 I'm an administrator to lead this for our teachers, and I said, hey, 157 00:12:58,120 --> 00:13:03,220 sure that I really want to read that book I've done into and I really call somebody 158 00:13:03,220 --> 00:13:08,400 and hijacked my thoughts and put them in this book because I'm raising my hands and 159 00:13:13,610 --> 00:13:15,430 so I don't 160 00:13:18,180 --> 00:13:25,160 get started but I know this if we're going to fix the problem we have to be willing 161 00:13:25,160 --> 00:13:34,500 I appreciate you being here. The first video I'm going to show here is to say good idea 162 00:13:34,500 --> 00:13:35,880 a good concept for us 163 00:13:38,560 --> 00:13:40,080 and what our kids are doing. 164 00:14:32,460 --> 00:14:34,460 A job just as hard as that. 165 00:14:54,240 --> 00:14:56,320 A good concept for us is think about who's response is 166 00:14:58,590 --> 00:14:59,290 very responsible. 167 00:15:00,000 --> 00:15:28,180 So, when I saw that, I immediately connected it to the ancient generation. So, think about it. I feel that I was a jar, and show our kids that there is a better life than being glued to the buttons. They call us women, but many of our kids that I look around and say they don't hold time with their base in the buttons. So, this is something that I want to address with all of this. One of the things that it talks about in the ancient generation is to find someone that good humanism. 168 00:15:28,900 --> 00:15:34,040 Some people are just humanists. You spend an hour with them and everything feels better. 169 00:15:34,660 --> 00:15:40,540 Here's my example of human medicine. If I spend an hour with Matt Moore, I just feel better. 170 00:15:41,080 --> 00:15:45,440 Matt and Amelia are exactly great and they're inseparable. They're an old very cool. 171 00:15:45,680 --> 00:15:49,120 They're working, they fight, hopefully love you too, so excited to see each other. 172 00:15:49,720 --> 00:15:53,260 They're humanists, they laugh. This is a 173 00:15:55,560 --> 00:15:58,080 course that my eight-year-old said in the night yard 174 00:15:58,080 --> 00:16:01,460 because we don't play on our phones all day long. 175 00:16:01,780 --> 00:16:03,700 I think all the time I've ever been in the garage 176 00:16:03,700 --> 00:16:05,920 and make you an enjoyer voice. 177 00:16:06,660 --> 00:16:09,580 And they're created, their little rings can't do this, 178 00:16:09,720 --> 00:16:10,740 if we allow them to. 179 00:16:14,310 --> 00:16:16,530 That's how it seems all but I can't run in person. 180 00:16:18,240 --> 00:16:20,100 Didn't back without a calculator. 181 00:16:23,990 --> 00:16:24,250 I mean, 182 00:16:27,190 --> 00:16:29,550 that can't tell time. 183 00:16:31,390 --> 00:16:32,870 Seeing kids press it right, 184 00:16:42,670 --> 00:16:43,810 and we'd like everybody to 185 00:16:53,600 --> 00:16:54,020 be beginning 186 00:16:54,020 --> 00:16:58,520 on really what John and my generation. 187 00:16:58,520 --> 00:17:03,640 He separates us into these generations over here. 188 00:17:03,900 --> 00:17:06,440 If you were born between 1928 and 1945, 189 00:17:06,560 --> 00:17:08,240 you're known as the Silent Generation. 190 00:17:09,000 --> 00:17:11,680 Baby Edwards, you're 1946 and 1964. 191 00:17:12,100 --> 00:17:15,880 If you were born 1965 and 1980, you are genetics. 192 00:17:16,760 --> 00:17:20,380 If you're 1981 and 1996, you're millennials, 1996, 193 00:17:21,220 --> 00:17:22,800 or later, genetics. 194 00:17:23,180 --> 00:17:25,180 So recognize who you are. 195 00:17:25,600 --> 00:17:27,020 Identify yourself right now. 196 00:17:27,020 --> 00:17:32,720 because this is important. They get to be more and what you grew up with, matters because your 197 00:17:32,720 --> 00:17:35,180 norm is only what you need. 198 00:17:50,500 --> 00:17:51,660 I'll put them in car phones. 199 00:17:56,310 --> 00:17:57,970 So here I can find some. 200 00:18:03,660 --> 00:18:04,240 So they only 201 00:18:04,240 --> 00:18:05,160 work in the car. 202 00:18:10,980 --> 00:18:14,660 They were very sensitive. They were heavy. They were bulky. They stay in the 203 00:18:14,660 --> 00:18:19,570 car pocket. And then we quickly make 204 00:18:21,970 --> 00:18:24,270 some of the phones that you had to take, hit the bed for 205 00:18:24,270 --> 00:18:29,710 three times just to get sleep, and hit the bed. I mean, do you remember how tedious that was to 206 00:18:29,710 --> 00:18:33,310 in the text message where we go to celebrate that we can send our words to the message. 207 00:18:33,870 --> 00:18:37,570 We didn't have to use our voice to make a phone call. 208 00:18:38,130 --> 00:18:39,610 We can send it to the text message. 209 00:18:40,130 --> 00:18:41,030 Thank you for your attention. 210 00:18:41,250 --> 00:18:42,070 We thank you very much. 211 00:18:45,710 --> 00:18:46,870 But then, here we go. 212 00:18:47,010 --> 00:18:50,950 Now we're in these smart phones that you were going to thank for. 213 00:18:52,720 --> 00:18:54,620 Just think about how far we have come. 214 00:19:01,070 --> 00:19:05,890 I mean, when I think about my mother's child, I think of a phone that was like 1876 because 215 00:19:05,890 --> 00:19:07,470 she still had phone call rang on. 216 00:19:07,470 --> 00:19:12,030 But they were, you know, in graduation, but they were around I've seen those. 217 00:19:13,050 --> 00:19:14,850 So see how frequently funds are generated. 218 00:19:20,400 --> 00:19:22,740 It's causing an epidemic of mental illness. 219 00:19:22,960 --> 00:19:28,120 So mental illness is really at the heart of the problem of addiction itself. 220 00:19:30,680 --> 00:19:33,880 This in here, if you're here tonight, you obviously can say this. 221 00:19:33,960 --> 00:19:39,880 So if you're listening, if you're reading this book, mental health is important to all of this. 222 00:19:40,380 --> 00:19:42,540 But sometimes we just don't know how to go about it. 223 00:19:43,540 --> 00:19:50,060 The message should have happened quickly over the course of 2010 to 2005. 224 00:19:50,700 --> 00:19:51,220 I never tried. 225 00:19:51,520 --> 00:19:52,980 I became one in 2009. 226 00:19:53,620 --> 00:19:55,280 I had another job in 2011. 227 00:19:55,620 --> 00:19:57,440 So I was in my heart and soul with this. 228 00:19:57,840 --> 00:20:00,340 So I think that's why this book gets me so hard. 229 00:20:00,500 --> 00:20:04,260 It's because I was trying to figure out technology in racing children. 230 00:20:06,250 --> 00:20:08,350 I was in the States, but I didn't know what I didn't know. 231 00:20:08,710 --> 00:20:11,490 And I don't want us to be ourselves up over who we didn't know. 232 00:20:11,490 --> 00:20:13,110 I want us to do what kind of things. 233 00:20:15,360 --> 00:20:16,320 We're used to hearing things. 234 00:20:16,620 --> 00:20:22,480 It takes a call in early on, but quickly move to smartphones, social media, and a good line of playtime. 235 00:20:23,060 --> 00:20:26,760 Teenage of hell is never seen such a steady decline. 236 00:20:27,360 --> 00:20:29,540 What's the evolution of child who look like? 237 00:20:29,740 --> 00:20:32,900 Put a phone in the way, and you're like a storm human. 238 00:20:35,190 --> 00:20:37,570 John the Hite calls in a bizarre human. 239 00:20:40,020 --> 00:20:45,080 The experiences we go through early in our years instead of our wiring, our wood brand, 240 00:20:45,080 --> 00:20:52,800 There are how we experience life. So you know how we say all the time. You don't really remember what happened when you were three years old, four years old, five years old. 241 00:20:53,480 --> 00:21:05,980 We don't have a memory of what happened, but we do have a memory of what normal was. The experiences that we go through create the blue ground. 242 00:21:05,980 --> 00:21:10,980 Here's how he explains it in the book. He says it's he says it's like when you teach your handsome people 243 00:21:15,240 --> 00:21:21,480 He's like people if they don't you do it again. If they pay attention to you, you do it again and again and again 244 00:21:21,480 --> 00:21:23,840 He doesn't what you pay attention to 245 00:21:24,280 --> 00:21:31,160 Well, these cell phones that they're putting in front of them are created in a way to grab your attention and keep their attention 246 00:21:31,160 --> 00:21:34,720 and hold their attention and then that becomes their own. 247 00:21:37,780 --> 00:21:39,100 It's just what we can say before 248 00:21:39,100 --> 00:21:44,440 It's those times that we feel normal, and that was power before we came here. 249 00:21:44,940 --> 00:21:49,620 Think about your childhood, think about it right now, everybody think about it, but 250 00:21:49,620 --> 00:21:50,840 once you've your grandparents have, 251 00:21:53,960 --> 00:21:55,160 feel that you 252 00:21:58,840 --> 00:22:00,180 went through your mind, didn't involve 253 00:22:00,180 --> 00:22:00,760 the stuff up, 254 00:22:02,860 --> 00:22:06,420 didn't involve a grandparents or the face distracted by something. 255 00:22:09,250 --> 00:22:13,020 I think that my grandparents' full bloom 256 00:22:16,440 --> 00:22:20,160 is out on the farm, digging raw potatoes up out 257 00:22:20,160 --> 00:22:24,500 of the field, not knowing what I was getting in my hands, but thinking of the school all at 258 00:22:24,500 --> 00:22:27,280 at the same time, going out and beating the gals, 259 00:22:27,760 --> 00:22:31,680 getting involved, all night going over and sitting on the patio 260 00:22:31,680 --> 00:22:35,220 and the older people, watching the young people play games 261 00:22:35,220 --> 00:22:38,040 and be funny, watching the kids go down the creek 262 00:22:38,040 --> 00:22:40,380 and play and figure out what they can find in the water, 263 00:22:40,740 --> 00:22:42,460 none of them include their cell phones. 264 00:22:43,640 --> 00:22:45,040 But think about what it's like now, 265 00:22:52,770 --> 00:22:54,550 experience when I go to the room here. 266 00:23:00,320 --> 00:23:02,300 We see the world with different filters 267 00:23:02,300 --> 00:23:05,540 and lenses and experiences, 268 00:23:05,540 --> 00:23:05,760 his 269 00:23:10,050 --> 00:23:12,390 developmental cortex. 270 00:23:12,610 --> 00:23:14,710 And we know that our brain is not fully developed 271 00:23:14,710 --> 00:23:16,490 until about 25 years old, 272 00:23:18,550 --> 00:23:20,770 flexibility to protect kids. 273 00:23:22,750 --> 00:23:26,450 This is what experiences out of my future, 274 00:23:28,430 --> 00:23:29,290 done there in 275 00:23:31,440 --> 00:23:32,140 17 276 00:23:37,220 --> 00:23:38,300 .0, non-stop. 277 00:23:39,360 --> 00:23:41,420 But you know what, this bottom picture here, 278 00:23:41,440 --> 00:23:41,940 he asked 279 00:23:54,650 --> 00:23:57,010 with my hero at my brain parents house, 280 00:23:57,170 --> 00:23:58,270 this house upon him, 281 00:24:00,380 --> 00:24:02,080 every time you go to that house, 282 00:24:02,760 --> 00:24:04,940 he will sit over there in contractions, 283 00:24:04,940 --> 00:24:05,360 His 284 00:24:08,520 --> 00:24:10,940 first memory is that he is developing right now. 285 00:24:13,420 --> 00:24:15,660 He is all boy, all play. 286 00:24:15,860 --> 00:24:17,520 The bottom right picture, and then I'll move on. 287 00:24:17,740 --> 00:24:19,740 We were painting Bill Sun's room. 288 00:24:20,060 --> 00:24:20,380 A couple of things 289 00:24:22,780 --> 00:24:23,100 in there. 290 00:24:23,180 --> 00:24:25,460 He went out and he sits at the time. 291 00:24:25,640 --> 00:24:25,780 So in 292 00:24:55,090 --> 00:24:56,210 the corner and 293 00:25:05,110 --> 00:25:06,550 see his imprint. 294 00:25:09,240 --> 00:25:10,300 We didn't see it. 295 00:26:25,600 --> 00:26:26,540 And they don't get hurt. 296 00:26:27,000 --> 00:26:28,280 And they don't take chances. 297 00:26:28,500 --> 00:26:29,420 And they don't take risks. 298 00:26:30,020 --> 00:26:31,100 And they're losing the 299 00:26:43,380 --> 00:26:43,740 H560s. 300 00:26:47,490 --> 00:26:49,670 The people who developed it, that I talked about, 301 00:26:51,210 --> 00:26:56,090 And he just said it in puberty. The brain starts developing in a total different way. 302 00:26:56,490 --> 00:27:00,090 The brain becomes very curious and begin rewiring. 303 00:27:04,470 --> 00:27:05,650 Think about this. 304 00:27:06,010 --> 00:27:07,050 John at the night says, 305 00:27:07,190 --> 00:27:08,770 kids don't learn when they're in your arms. 306 00:27:21,110 --> 00:27:21,870 So the words of play. 307 00:27:22,270 --> 00:27:23,970 We tell them who's seen their own. 308 00:27:24,290 --> 00:27:25,290 We think their dreams. 309 00:27:25,830 --> 00:27:27,450 We tell them exactly what game they're playing. 310 00:27:27,910 --> 00:27:29,670 If there's a conflict, they say, stop, stop, stop. 311 00:27:36,160 --> 00:27:37,340 Be hot, dad, hot. 312 00:27:41,510 --> 00:27:42,690 These pictures here. 313 00:27:43,070 --> 00:27:44,130 This is not by the sun. 314 00:27:44,130 --> 00:27:44,670 We shot 315 00:27:46,840 --> 00:27:48,080 again. We're really the 316 00:27:52,020 --> 00:27:53,200 only dead out and his 317 00:28:15,500 --> 00:28:17,200 15 kids with 318 00:28:25,010 --> 00:28:29,800 tears in my eyes. What kids name do they do me? 319 00:28:30,940 --> 00:28:35,880 And this happens every all part of age difference of my years. 320 00:28:54,250 --> 00:28:55,030 Guess what happened? 321 00:29:06,950 --> 00:29:08,490 He said this. He said that I went and I 322 00:29:11,470 --> 00:29:20,890 said, say that heal. I said, yeah, he said, we took him out of his little chamber and rolled the wheelchair down to the bottom of the field. 323 00:29:20,890 --> 00:29:25,200 He crawled down the hill on 324 00:29:28,840 --> 00:29:29,900 my face showing me how 325 00:29:39,500 --> 00:29:42,180 I thought telling him to do that. 326 00:29:57,560 --> 00:29:58,700 Joke in the United States. 327 00:29:58,720 --> 00:29:59,980 That is the absolute... 328 00:30:00,000 --> 00:30:27,540 No speech waiting to be kicked in place. So think about that. Think about that as educators. We're on the playground. Other times we haven't given rules. There's times we... I'm not saying so. Don't synchronize for a distance. But then kids get into. Let them figure out how to fix the problem. The thrill and fear of makes things a factor, right? That's why I came home from a skateboard in Los Angeles. Anybody have any of those injuries that you use? You just said one. 329 00:30:27,540 --> 00:30:31,700 in the world where you've been, but that part of the brain that's developed in between 330 00:30:31,700 --> 00:30:37,340 seven and eight-fourteen, that curious, let me try it, it's a thrill, I don't even think 331 00:30:37,340 --> 00:30:40,840 about it, you don't hurt me, isn't it for that part of the brain that has to develop? 332 00:30:41,380 --> 00:30:46,400 But we have to know that taking risk, could pose as 333 00:30:51,870 --> 00:30:54,310 a kid confidence and confidence, but 334 00:30:54,310 --> 00:31:00,570 as I play, you'll suffer that video game, hang on, let's talk about four times, he specifically 335 00:31:08,740 --> 00:31:13,880 And I did not let my kids play Fortnite, because I only heard other parents complain of 336 00:31:20,340 --> 00:31:22,760 this Fortnite game makes them mean. 337 00:31:23,240 --> 00:31:26,260 It's like if they did it, they don't want to get off of it. 338 00:31:26,540 --> 00:31:27,280 And I'm going to look at 339 00:31:39,670 --> 00:31:40,770 finding things that they 340 00:31:43,620 --> 00:31:44,720 think they should never have 341 00:31:47,080 --> 00:31:47,960 been true for themselves, 342 00:31:53,280 --> 00:31:53,700 really. 343 00:31:54,320 --> 00:31:58,280 And so during the time period, all this was going on and 344 00:32:01,800 --> 00:32:04,200 up with something that I tell my kids all the time. 345 00:32:04,200 --> 00:32:07,720 Does that make sense to your wife and you can pull any up to the side, right? 346 00:32:07,920 --> 00:32:08,440 And I said, well, you 347 00:32:11,060 --> 00:32:12,720 don't probably roll around with that one, 348 00:32:14,930 --> 00:32:16,090 but I do ask him, 349 00:32:22,240 --> 00:32:22,540 let's 350 00:32:22,540 --> 00:32:22,820 call it. 351 00:32:22,940 --> 00:32:23,300 What it is. 352 00:32:23,940 --> 00:32:26,660 If you're going to waste your time, again, that doesn't make sense. 353 00:32:28,580 --> 00:32:29,240 But it's funny. 354 00:33:00,210 --> 00:33:00,910 Think about this. 355 00:33:00,990 --> 00:33:02,430 This is a mom's starting work. 356 00:33:02,670 --> 00:33:09,150 You know, when I was a young child, they were all saying, oh, and he calls it, I'm on the 357 00:33:09,150 --> 00:33:09,390 street. 358 00:33:09,930 --> 00:33:11,570 His mom's were always watching. 359 00:33:11,770 --> 00:33:14,790 And kids got to a fight, or kids got hurt, they always did those 360 00:33:19,020 --> 00:33:19,560 starting work. 361 00:33:19,560 --> 00:33:21,400 The home and 362 00:33:24,470 --> 00:33:28,880 stuff in, where you can't be so much more aware of day and 363 00:33:28,880 --> 00:33:29,820 kids inside, 364 00:33:36,800 --> 00:33:40,040 the possibility to supervise, it just looks different now. 365 00:33:42,110 --> 00:33:45,010 In the rural world, we have hundreds of years of experience, 366 00:33:45,650 --> 00:33:47,310 minimizing the risk, example, 367 00:33:54,740 --> 00:33:56,060 without 30 years of experience. 368 00:34:04,490 --> 00:34:08,850 In 2010 to 2012, we thought technology and onions and young kids 369 00:34:08,850 --> 00:34:13,450 was that not too much more as a woman. 370 00:34:13,890 --> 00:34:14,830 We thought it was great. 371 00:34:14,830 --> 00:34:17,750 We wanted to download all the educational apps 372 00:34:17,750 --> 00:34:21,100 and strengthen kids who do all that. 373 00:34:21,680 --> 00:34:23,760 I remember my kid clicking on Z. 374 00:34:24,120 --> 00:34:25,300 There were times when Z pumps up. 375 00:34:31,180 --> 00:34:31,920 He's done big work. 376 00:34:36,070 --> 00:34:36,810 Look him up. 377 00:34:36,930 --> 00:34:38,970 He does a lot of work in and looks because he's going. 378 00:34:39,490 --> 00:34:42,650 But he talks about the ancient generation. 379 00:34:42,870 --> 00:34:44,370 This is the summary. 380 00:34:44,850 --> 00:34:46,830 She'll have small phones, social media, 381 00:34:47,450 --> 00:34:48,270 and telecom to America. 382 00:34:48,570 --> 00:34:51,050 He'll have loads to do with decline in young people's mental health. 383 00:34:51,470 --> 00:34:52,990 And all of her actual solutions 384 00:34:58,740 --> 00:35:01,560 We are overprotecting children in the world, 385 00:35:05,110 --> 00:35:07,910 children in a playtaste childhood in the real world. 386 00:35:08,510 --> 00:35:09,610 If your child 387 00:35:14,950 --> 00:35:18,370 and you don't look at their phones, 388 00:35:20,400 --> 00:35:23,960 look at their apps, you be amazed and shocked. 389 00:35:24,380 --> 00:35:24,400 At 390 00:36:05,520 --> 00:36:06,720 the access they have to 391 00:36:16,770 --> 00:36:18,490 lift four foundational reforms. 392 00:36:18,490 --> 00:36:20,330 We can undo a bunch of 393 00:36:22,660 --> 00:36:28,570 our ideas as to improve both your own and your kids in Jomila. 394 00:36:28,990 --> 00:36:31,630 That's the summary in just this book. 395 00:36:32,170 --> 00:36:35,450 Think about this. They rely on our body language. Think about body language. 396 00:36:35,610 --> 00:36:38,790 If you're someone who gives you eye contact, is that let you know there are missing things? 397 00:36:43,420 --> 00:36:48,440 You know, our body language matters. There is no body language in cell phones. 398 00:36:49,340 --> 00:36:53,140 Maybe all red takes messages that you're like, oh, did they think that bad? 399 00:36:54,140 --> 00:36:55,320 but you don't know, 400 00:36:59,820 --> 00:37:01,440 and I've come across the wrong way. 401 00:37:01,900 --> 00:37:04,540 There was something to be said for human interaction 402 00:37:05,020 --> 00:37:07,780 and our kids are doing that less and less all the time. 403 00:37:08,320 --> 00:37:11,260 Working here in a hospital is impressive for a kid 404 00:37:11,260 --> 00:37:13,840 to shake a hand with confidence. 405 00:37:14,660 --> 00:37:16,720 It's impressive for a kid to make eye contact. 406 00:37:17,320 --> 00:37:19,960 It's impressive for a teenager to... 407 00:37:22,970 --> 00:37:23,630 It's impressive. 408 00:37:23,870 --> 00:37:24,270 And if you 409 00:37:29,900 --> 00:37:31,160 prepare it for the reward, 410 00:37:31,360 --> 00:37:32,980 and I see some business people like you, 411 00:37:32,980 --> 00:37:33,980 If you want to hire people, 412 00:37:37,240 --> 00:37:37,840 you and the others, 413 00:37:38,080 --> 00:37:41,160 shake your hand and have manners and have positive body language. 414 00:37:44,890 --> 00:37:46,110 Move you more around matters. 415 00:37:46,330 --> 00:37:47,310 Communication has a 416 00:37:51,980 --> 00:37:52,620 lot of barriers. 417 00:37:59,100 --> 00:37:59,640 Just generation. 418 00:38:07,820 --> 00:38:09,780 There's no smart phone to be poor on school. 419 00:38:24,810 --> 00:38:27,970 Is it not hard because everybody else has them? 420 00:38:32,320 --> 00:38:33,040 My kids age. 421 00:38:42,380 --> 00:38:44,960 It was a hard one to keep a pack of the seats together. 422 00:38:45,380 --> 00:38:47,020 And for the most part, none of our kids 423 00:38:47,020 --> 00:38:48,940 got cell phones until they went to their school. 424 00:38:50,120 --> 00:38:52,720 My middle son, a little bit different story. 425 00:38:52,720 --> 00:38:57,400 kids have an earlier and earlier. It wasn't the same. In my middle school, 426 00:38:57,800 --> 00:39:03,800 Charles, who's had one school in my hospital, it is. My elementary kid, I'm not 427 00:39:03,800 --> 00:39:04,680 giving myself one. 428 00:39:09,000 --> 00:39:12,240 There's been no conversation with a lot of parents. I have a very 429 00:39:12,240 --> 00:39:19,130 small hit group. But Jonathan and I talked about how important that if you have your 430 00:39:19,130 --> 00:39:19,490 parents, 431 00:39:23,090 --> 00:39:26,830 the one person is not. That one person could be right. But do they do 432 00:39:26,830 --> 00:39:37,990 I saw myself. Yes. It's not good for mental health. And so we really do wanted to be a community 433 00:39:37,990 --> 00:39:41,850 effort. We wanted to say something that we talked about because if you leave here tonight 434 00:39:41,850 --> 00:39:47,370 and can discuss this with your friends, your church family, the people you do like you, 435 00:39:47,570 --> 00:39:53,210 if you can discuss this with them and say no, let's think about this. Let's do this together. 436 00:39:53,610 --> 00:39:54,830 I promise it becomes easier. 437 00:39:56,920 --> 00:39:57,860 The other way is, no 438 00:40:00,740 --> 00:40:02,440 time was starting to write this book. 439 00:40:02,440 --> 00:40:09,140 So his number one goal, he was going behind the book, so many all the dangers of social media among females. 440 00:40:09,880 --> 00:40:15,580 That was all of his research in the beginning, was just about the dangers of social media within males. 441 00:40:16,260 --> 00:40:25,520 But then he learned that the addiction to video games, gaming among boys, was just as dangerous to mental health. 442 00:40:26,080 --> 00:40:29,000 And so he started digging into, what is calling this? 443 00:40:29,000 --> 00:40:34,560 And so that's why that's where the generation of the interest generation came from. 444 00:40:35,060 --> 00:40:37,460 He proposed to some preschools. 445 00:40:37,540 --> 00:40:40,240 You know, in our school system, when I was in high school, 446 00:40:41,000 --> 00:40:43,200 kids cannot be allowed to come during instructional time. 447 00:40:44,840 --> 00:40:48,300 That's going to make a huge benefit for us this school. 448 00:40:48,740 --> 00:40:50,720 It is really an positive thing. 449 00:40:51,140 --> 00:40:57,760 But he goes so far to say, even if they can get on during breaks and lunch, 450 00:40:57,760 --> 00:41:03,740 even if I can get on stage once every hour, they're never fully present because 451 00:41:03,740 --> 00:41:07,760 they're constantly thinking about what I miss. All the notifications that 452 00:41:07,760 --> 00:41:12,740 they miss, so they're never fully present because they're distracted and just 453 00:41:12,740 --> 00:41:16,760 thinking about their notifications. Have you ever noticed any angel I think? And 454 00:41:16,760 --> 00:41:21,940 say no, constantly, look at their own. I can just say no, so not all the 455 00:41:21,940 --> 00:41:24,040 I was like, let's just stop the notifications. 456 00:41:26,890 --> 00:41:27,890 Huge remains in here. 457 00:41:28,330 --> 00:41:29,770 I keep it really fully understand 458 00:41:29,770 --> 00:41:31,490 that he was doing that to himself. 459 00:41:36,370 --> 00:41:37,450 Those are very dangerous. 460 00:41:37,690 --> 00:41:39,430 We do have a lot of discipline issues 461 00:41:41,480 --> 00:41:42,700 or with social media. 462 00:41:43,600 --> 00:41:46,220 Kids can just be hateful, adults can be hateful. 463 00:41:46,680 --> 00:41:48,720 Kids learn to be hateful from adults that are hateful. 464 00:41:50,900 --> 00:41:52,100 You can't blind this on kids, 465 00:41:52,340 --> 00:41:55,520 but just a freedom to be keyboard warriors 466 00:41:55,520 --> 00:41:56,420 is what we call them. 467 00:41:56,460 --> 00:41:57,800 You'll say you think I'm under strain, 468 00:41:58,000 --> 00:41:59,760 but you wouldn't say I said that. 469 00:41:59,760 --> 00:42:07,560 So just the fact that kids are growing up and afraid of doing those things is really a dangerous thing. 470 00:42:08,100 --> 00:42:12,980 And we want to focus on far more unsupervised play in childhood in the Indians. 471 00:42:14,260 --> 00:42:16,800 Social skills, mindfulness, independent. 472 00:42:17,560 --> 00:42:21,420 You know, the mindfulness that my kid had that that boy is in a wheelchair. 473 00:42:22,560 --> 00:42:26,240 He needs help from the top of the heel to the bottom of the heel. 474 00:42:26,240 --> 00:42:31,700 The mindfulness that he, in that particular voice, figured out, you know, one of those 475 00:42:31,700 --> 00:42:32,140 over the 476 00:42:34,190 --> 00:42:35,090 mindfulness, 477 00:42:55,150 --> 00:42:59,430 what ends up sound like, there is a thing to wear the mind. 478 00:45:01,360 --> 00:45:04,320 Roger Biden, so round the neighborhood and there was a visit 479 00:45:09,020 --> 00:45:13,140 you owe back because you were in the comfort of the neighborhood of your friends. 480 00:45:27,440 --> 00:45:37,260 And she had a good, he says, even though it's bruises, not scars. He refers to that in here. You know, scars, starting on the warm thank you, and bruises. But bruises are important. 481 00:46:04,030 --> 00:46:07,190 in terms of the life of a psychological immune system. 482 00:46:07,590 --> 00:46:10,910 The ability of a child to handle process 483 00:46:10,910 --> 00:46:13,870 and get past frustrations, minor accidents, 484 00:46:14,370 --> 00:46:17,290 seeking exclusion, perceived injustices, 485 00:46:18,050 --> 00:46:20,310 and normal conflicts without falling 486 00:46:20,310 --> 00:46:23,930 prone to hours or days or an inner turmoil. 487 00:46:24,930 --> 00:46:27,590 There's no way we can live without human conflicts, 488 00:46:27,890 --> 00:46:30,790 but he talks about it then only. 489 00:46:30,790 --> 00:46:34,970 We have to teach you, if you're going to do this, then this will happen. 490 00:46:36,110 --> 00:46:39,330 If you don't want to tell us everything, you must first go away to choice. 491 00:46:39,970 --> 00:46:42,970 If you want to go out with your friends, you must clean your room. 492 00:46:43,790 --> 00:46:48,690 Well, I told my boys, if you want to go far, you must save money to get it all far. 493 00:46:49,070 --> 00:46:52,590 I will match what you saved the summer and we'll go get it all far. 494 00:46:53,010 --> 00:46:55,650 But whatever you save is what I will match. 495 00:46:55,650 --> 00:46:58,770 If you want to say 100 dollars, or if you 496 00:47:00,980 --> 00:47:04,780 want to say a couple thousand, or if you want to say a couple thousand dollars. 497 00:47:05,880 --> 00:47:12,680 My boys were on a mission, and they say, and they want us to get rid of the opportunity they could. 498 00:47:13,400 --> 00:47:16,680 They want to get rid of all of our experience they could. They 499 00:47:19,720 --> 00:47:20,620 went to a company. 500 00:47:30,210 --> 00:47:31,010 This is great. 501 00:47:41,760 --> 00:47:42,660 It's actually what they say. 502 00:47:43,420 --> 00:47:45,980 But he talks about the importance of that. 503 00:47:46,180 --> 00:47:47,260 You have to teach it. 504 00:47:47,380 --> 00:47:50,980 Yes, yes, yes, he has a psychological immune system. 505 00:47:51,660 --> 00:47:56,000 In the middle here, he talks about the importance of 506 00:48:00,480 --> 00:48:01,060 my summer 507 00:48:01,060 --> 00:48:03,760 and the baseball coach, Tim Forbun, said, 508 00:48:04,260 --> 00:48:06,460 you should let your parents know every day 509 00:48:06,900 --> 00:48:09,440 but they're in and less every day. 510 00:48:15,910 --> 00:48:21,030 But we also need less every day. 511 00:48:21,030 --> 00:48:26,710 And so, young adults, we're constantly raising future. 512 00:48:29,770 --> 00:48:31,310 I don't want to mess that up. 513 00:48:31,670 --> 00:48:32,930 There's nothing, I take more 514 00:48:43,270 --> 00:48:43,530 care on. 515 00:48:43,630 --> 00:48:45,570 Even if they get hurt, they usually get 516 00:48:49,280 --> 00:48:50,600 this picture here 517 00:48:50,600 --> 00:48:51,860 is an uphill spill. 518 00:48:52,660 --> 00:48:54,040 Every summer, for 519 00:48:57,210 --> 00:48:59,010 ways they get together by boring or 520 00:49:01,570 --> 00:49:01,770 all, 521 00:49:01,830 --> 00:49:04,210 it's a starting in my yard where they keep falling. 522 00:49:04,470 --> 00:49:06,810 And if you get it over the barn, it was a long run 523 00:49:06,810 --> 00:49:07,950 and you get it through the window. 524 00:49:09,770 --> 00:49:10,770 There were all kinds of rules. 525 00:49:11,030 --> 00:49:14,740 And these kids got together and put it all to the next. 526 00:49:14,740 --> 00:49:15,960 They signed up for the next one. 527 00:49:15,960 --> 00:49:18,460 Otis No, which was found for T-shirt designs, 528 00:49:18,820 --> 00:49:22,060 get T-shirt wars, a sweet lace and thoughts 529 00:49:22,060 --> 00:49:24,640 doesn't even charge us for a shirt in watermelons. 530 00:49:24,700 --> 00:49:26,960 He says, this is the coolest thing I've ever seen. 531 00:49:27,120 --> 00:49:28,800 He comes in watches, like it's, 532 00:49:29,320 --> 00:49:34,060 there's like 30 plus kids that get together and they run it. 533 00:49:34,760 --> 00:49:37,500 And the rule is, no look at me now that I'm in the intro. 534 00:49:39,800 --> 00:49:44,770 We're not videoing, but several of them after we did this 535 00:49:44,770 --> 00:49:46,650 for about two summers, so you should make it. 536 00:49:48,040 --> 00:49:49,540 That's why I'm new in this. 537 00:49:49,540 --> 00:49:52,860 is to not be on technology, so 538 00:49:59,010 --> 00:49:59,950 it gives me kids. 539 00:50:00,250 --> 00:50:02,150 I want to say kids get outside. 540 00:50:24,920 --> 00:50:25,920 This is a manufacturer. 541 00:50:29,020 --> 00:50:29,760 They have brought, 542 00:50:36,180 --> 00:50:38,680 say, these kids pay away with a little girl. 543 00:50:42,340 --> 00:50:45,240 It was the latest experience to watch. 544 00:50:45,560 --> 00:50:48,200 And as I'm reading this book, the anxious generation, 545 00:50:49,260 --> 00:50:51,120 so many things that he says, 546 00:50:53,810 --> 00:50:54,550 this right here 547 00:50:54,550 --> 00:50:56,770 is one of the greatest things we can do with our kids. 548 00:50:57,230 --> 00:50:59,330 Just let them get outside and play. 549 00:50:59,830 --> 00:51:01,970 So 2004 Facebook was innovative. 550 00:51:01,970 --> 00:51:07,090 Some of you may remember the time period 2007 was the first time something 551 00:51:09,840 --> 00:51:11,680 worthy and old you weren't old. 552 00:51:12,080 --> 00:51:16,020 In 2009, Facebook and Twitter came up with a light book. 553 00:51:16,480 --> 00:51:17,720 Do you remember the time 554 00:51:20,630 --> 00:51:21,810 there became out 555 00:51:25,490 --> 00:51:27,270 of that you got 25 lights? 556 00:51:27,650 --> 00:51:29,910 I could go to an app and purchase lights. 557 00:51:33,890 --> 00:51:36,210 We started learning that kids care what you think. 558 00:51:36,750 --> 00:51:39,410 It matters how many lights you got. 559 00:51:39,410 --> 00:51:47,610 In 2010, the iPhone 4 was the first front facing camera. 560 00:51:48,010 --> 00:51:49,830 Okay, so we can now take selfies. 561 00:51:51,130 --> 00:51:52,930 Why is that such a big deal? 562 00:51:54,070 --> 00:51:57,450 Because all of a sudden we can see what we look like that much more. 563 00:51:58,450 --> 00:52:01,510 And we can now start coming up with filters 564 00:52:01,510 --> 00:52:04,430 to make ourselves look like we're really not. 565 00:52:05,310 --> 00:52:07,590 So what do we really say that's real? 566 00:52:08,110 --> 00:52:09,230 And what is filtered? 567 00:52:09,230 --> 00:52:10,810 You know what I'm talking about? 568 00:52:13,130 --> 00:52:19,010 2016, there was 79% of teens having sworn in 569 00:52:21,120 --> 00:52:22,160 2016. 570 00:52:26,200 --> 00:52:29,060 He talks about in the book, he calls that a fundamental shift. 571 00:52:29,300 --> 00:52:35,420 So they go about the age of your children, the age you were, the experiences. 572 00:52:36,300 --> 00:52:41,100 By 2022, one third of all teens say they own our 573 00:52:47,400 --> 00:52:49,360 crypto mind for attention. 574 00:52:49,360 --> 00:52:50,060 or 575 00:52:56,050 --> 00:53:00,590 they made that really, they had about five to ten minutes to make without interruption. 576 00:53:04,580 --> 00:53:10,160 It began this study when there was a huge decline in mental health 577 00:53:10,160 --> 00:53:10,460 and 578 00:53:13,210 --> 00:53:18,470 they noticed less and less people congregating around together outside of the court yard 579 00:53:18,470 --> 00:53:24,210 and more people going to the nurses with anxiety and depression and suicidal thoughts. 580 00:53:25,590 --> 00:53:26,310 That's where the 581 00:53:36,970 --> 00:53:40,150 kids went to their comments, adults went to their comments, 582 00:53:40,470 --> 00:53:44,270 and they were assessed with their comments and their action. 583 00:53:45,900 --> 00:53:56,080 The great rewiring of childhood is the funnest childhood replaced play-based childhood is the major cause of the international enemy. 584 00:54:02,780 --> 00:54:10,480 We are embodying creatures children should learn how to manage their bodies in the physical world before they start spending more time at the time of the virtual world. 585 00:54:12,870 --> 00:54:15,490 We shouldn't want to see bruises, not scars. 586 00:54:16,130 --> 00:54:21,970 This was a 14-year-old young lady from Rhode Island who wrote this into the free press. This is from a 14-year-old's perspective. 587 00:54:22,710 --> 00:54:27,750 Parents are also protecting our children in the rural world while under-protected in online. 588 00:54:29,980 --> 00:54:35,840 They should show that I have no risk of challenges of many talents by building physical, psychological, and social competency. 589 00:54:36,160 --> 00:54:40,620 It gives kids confidence that they can face new situations which should be anxiety. 590 00:54:41,200 --> 00:54:42,340 But she talked about, 591 00:54:44,530 --> 00:54:47,070 don't think it's the last time I've played or any of my building. 592 00:54:47,410 --> 00:54:51,110 I don't think I'll make my way. My kids don't go outside and play, but I'm not at their will. 593 00:54:51,110 --> 00:54:57,770 but never younger. So we just, we, we are responsible for some of this. And so I 594 00:54:57,770 --> 00:54:59,170 think like for some of this, 595 00:55:01,830 --> 00:55:05,090 he discusses two major distinct differences. 596 00:55:05,310 --> 00:55:09,390 Disco room versus agenda. And I share some features of my family and 597 00:55:13,100 --> 00:55:13,800 in your 598 00:55:13,800 --> 00:55:20,280 minds, the difference and discover versus demand. The brain keeps in view when you 599 00:55:20,280 --> 00:55:26,160 detect opportunities such as coming across a tree full of bright tears. When you 600 00:55:26,160 --> 00:55:31,080 in your room are hungry. That's the smell of it. You are flooded with excitement and 601 00:55:31,080 --> 00:55:36,480 curiosity. This is the smell of it. So if you let your kids go to work and play 602 00:55:37,730 --> 00:55:39,050 things and discover things, 603 00:55:43,500 --> 00:55:44,900 that's the ability. The brain, 604 00:55:47,760 --> 00:55:49,420 we went to Hawaii and 605 00:55:49,420 --> 00:55:53,400 watching my kids go through with the band before. So we're going to go on this 606 00:55:53,400 --> 00:55:56,600 hike. It was going to last about five hours and everybody in the family was 607 00:55:56,600 --> 00:55:58,640 worried that they were all going to be able to do it. 608 00:56:02,530 --> 00:56:03,330 When I could go with the 609 00:56:03,330 --> 00:56:09,670 He was incredible. He was in full love with the self-emotional. He was crazy excited about everything we saw. 610 00:56:09,830 --> 00:56:14,610 He wanted to take anything that we found wrong on the tree. He was honest. 611 00:56:18,380 --> 00:56:19,080 It was amazing. 612 00:56:19,440 --> 00:56:23,540 We see turtles bigger than our eyes on this. They 613 00:56:26,940 --> 00:56:29,540 experience it. Don't want to video with somebody doing that. 614 00:56:29,660 --> 00:56:33,940 You know the story, isn't it? You're experiencing for yourself. 615 00:56:33,940 --> 00:56:36,720 But if they have no, okay, 616 00:56:39,130 --> 00:56:42,090 hands down Africa with a mission trip, it's the sale room to 617 00:56:42,090 --> 00:56:47,370 stay alive and remain to that home, that's really exciting, but if that line starts to 618 00:56:47,370 --> 00:56:52,390 roar and grow out and be closer to you, what do you think you can get into the sale room 619 00:56:52,390 --> 00:56:53,190 or if in a moment? 620 00:56:56,860 --> 00:57:01,520 But we have to give kids the opportunity to go on these differences with their own, or 621 00:57:01,520 --> 00:57:05,060 they're going to come at home and not ever have one of those differences, and then we'll 622 00:57:05,060 --> 00:57:06,120 be able to sleep again 623 00:57:23,500 --> 00:57:24,340 in 2010. 624 00:57:27,860 --> 00:57:30,100 And you had to look at it and it's like we'll be here. 625 00:57:30,800 --> 00:57:38,420 You're up for those? To the information. I bet there was a set and when you look it up, 626 00:57:38,500 --> 00:57:42,580 you set down the kitchen table and you look, it was all in there together. Well now, 627 00:57:42,920 --> 00:57:48,480 when I see internet and homes, kids are looking at things in their own room, on their own, 628 00:57:49,380 --> 00:57:50,680 not with the family. 629 00:57:53,290 --> 00:57:54,610 You know, we said we were simultaneously 630 00:57:58,540 --> 00:58:00,000 one third of things that we had 631 00:58:00,000 --> 00:58:05,680 they are on social media sites I was constantly by 2018 we are truly a phone 632 00:58:05,680 --> 00:58:07,320 based adolescent felt 633 00:58:09,880 --> 00:58:13,940 that borrow rights statement in the court from 2010 to 634 00:58:13,940 --> 00:58:21,240 2021 there was a suicide rate jump on one of girls increased 166. 635 00:58:24,490 --> 00:58:24,990 This is the 636 00:58:24,990 --> 00:58:35,010 thing that may jump and hide deep into all of this. It raised 167 percent from 637 00:58:35,010 --> 00:58:41,710 2010-20021, so we wanted to know what happened between 2010 and 2021. 638 00:58:50,200 --> 00:58:51,700 You're hearing an 639 00:58:54,740 --> 00:58:59,640 exchange of culture and everything. Students talk to each other less in my classes, 640 00:59:00,520 --> 00:59:04,200 at recess at lunch and during downtime because they begin to sing much of their time 641 00:59:04,200 --> 00:59:09,520 changing their bones. Social media became a distraction but they left eye contact 642 00:59:09,520 --> 00:59:15,500 frequently left together and they lost the practice of making conversation. 643 00:59:16,200 --> 00:59:22,980 When we go into a doctor's office, it's uncomfortable for our kids, but I'm not even talking to people. 644 00:59:25,380 --> 00:59:27,840 We don't, I don't let them hear your phones in. 645 00:59:41,030 --> 00:59:43,370 As we know that, it's hard to have a phone. 646 01:00:00,000 --> 01:00:06,860 It's never not within. So, for all out of Facebook, it colleges, key press centers are 647 01:00:06,860 --> 01:00:11,040 for mental health, special depression, and legion, and personal mental health care services. 648 01:00:12,480 --> 01:00:18,500 Girls use social media with a voice. Yet, boys gravitate towards watching YouTube videos and 649 01:00:18,500 --> 01:00:26,000 learning more than videos with video games. In 2013, one in seven females stand more than 650 01:00:26,000 --> 01:00:27,660 hours per week on social media. 651 01:00:33,700 --> 01:00:36,760 We don't allow kids to work 40 hours a week 652 01:00:36,760 --> 01:00:37,680 while we're going to spend 653 01:00:40,980 --> 01:00:44,720 one set of things that's admitted to be on their phones, 654 01:00:45,160 --> 01:00:50,600 social media, or 40 hours a week. It was possible to send 40 hours a week before they could hear 655 01:00:57,260 --> 01:00:58,060 all the internet. 656 01:01:15,680 --> 01:01:19,720 It's just a risk for all you to give kids too much to do so. 657 01:01:23,240 --> 01:01:27,680 Jinsy, and we're identified by our cell phone though, Jinsy is the first kids, 658 01:01:29,410 --> 01:01:31,010 These are kids who are staying out. 659 01:01:31,150 --> 01:01:31,470 And you can 660 01:01:39,440 --> 01:01:41,080 group up and play mode. 661 01:01:41,620 --> 01:01:43,520 Genics, legit group up, flying out. 662 01:01:54,620 --> 01:01:56,280 You got to give them something afternoon. 663 01:01:56,280 --> 01:01:56,760 Just for 664 01:01:58,840 --> 01:02:00,320 people, families got to give them. 665 01:02:08,160 --> 01:02:08,880 This is so hard. 666 01:02:09,680 --> 01:02:11,280 This way of thinking walks through. 667 01:02:11,460 --> 01:02:13,760 For parents, they will feel uncomfortable to challenge. 668 01:02:13,920 --> 01:02:14,660 They use the phones. 669 01:02:15,520 --> 01:02:16,160 Let's be honest. 670 01:02:17,140 --> 01:02:19,660 Is it easy to challenge or give them? 671 01:02:20,860 --> 01:02:22,280 It's a fight, it's a battle. 672 01:02:23,660 --> 01:02:25,800 Clear expectations is key. 673 01:02:27,080 --> 01:02:31,700 Disgumper is always a sign that I'm giving something new, not this is going wrong, explain 674 01:02:31,700 --> 01:02:33,000 your lies to your child. 675 01:02:33,420 --> 01:02:35,200 I say downtown, whatever it is I explain to them. 676 01:02:35,300 --> 01:02:36,540 If you do think about something uptown, 677 01:02:39,620 --> 01:02:41,120 think to your wife, let's not stand. 678 01:02:41,760 --> 01:02:41,880 I 679 01:02:48,080 --> 01:02:49,020 should kill my three 680 01:02:53,470 --> 01:02:54,330 and say this. 681 01:02:54,750 --> 01:02:55,970 Think about what it's like. 682 01:02:56,150 --> 01:03:00,830 The first time you follow your kill, my three and sixty, you follow every move they make. 683 01:03:01,190 --> 01:03:03,510 How fast they go, where they go or 684 01:03:12,380 --> 01:03:13,620 you go and actually make 685 01:03:23,570 --> 01:03:24,650 the decisions. 686 01:03:25,270 --> 01:03:26,570 You do a little bit less 687 01:03:35,210 --> 01:03:39,150 the same concept when we, an 688 01:03:43,470 --> 01:03:46,600 internet-based and quick-shaking 689 01:03:46,600 --> 01:03:46,880 what 690 01:03:49,210 --> 01:03:54,350 there's no that they're saying, because there are some people in this world working 691 01:03:54,350 --> 01:03:55,010 right on where 692 01:03:58,280 --> 01:03:59,180 you're getting energy, 693 01:04:07,780 --> 01:04:08,560 we can change 694 01:04:11,020 --> 01:04:12,220 stock getting elementary, 695 01:04:17,750 --> 01:04:18,470 we've got 696 01:04:18,470 --> 01:04:22,830 a member that's not a job to bear against going up, they don't need more friends, they need 697 01:04:22,830 --> 01:04:23,290 a parent, 698 01:04:29,410 --> 01:04:30,490 but in do what we can, 699 01:04:33,740 --> 01:04:37,140 we need smartphones before we get to hospital, it is way too 700 01:04:37,140 --> 01:04:43,700 interest. Start with the youngest first like this gift we can give them. This big 701 01:04:43,700 --> 01:04:47,940 show over here at the right is this last year, the elementary schools have play day 702 01:04:47,940 --> 01:04:50,560 where they just 703 01:04:52,710 --> 01:04:56,330 cannot make technology. And my kid came home and said, 704 01:04:56,510 --> 01:04:59,930 boom, this key is still we could bring. Each thing that fits 705 01:05:10,940 --> 01:05:11,940 with stories equals 706 01:05:28,110 --> 01:05:29,790 to do that. We need more things like that. 707 01:05:51,480 --> 01:05:53,200 But if we as adults have our face and 708 01:05:53,200 --> 01:05:55,280 and violence while they're rolling up, 709 01:05:55,320 --> 01:05:55,400 I 710 01:06:10,690 --> 01:06:14,560 can use these fingers and I'm talking to my fans. 711 01:06:53,450 --> 01:06:54,210 My kids are all like, 712 01:07:17,750 --> 01:07:18,970 and Mom, do you think you live? 713 01:07:28,850 --> 01:07:30,390 Because do you know what we do as a family? 714 01:07:34,920 --> 01:07:35,860 When you go to your bedroom, 715 01:07:49,600 --> 01:07:51,180 try to do so many things 716 01:07:51,180 --> 01:07:51,640 and pay 717 01:07:53,850 --> 01:07:55,470 attention to protect your kids. 718 01:08:01,780 --> 01:08:03,060 No smart box before. 719 01:08:06,780 --> 01:08:09,160 I'm free schools and far more than 720 01:08:12,360 --> 01:08:12,740 four. 721 01:08:17,720 --> 01:08:18,480 And I challenge 722 01:08:22,320 --> 01:08:24,260 and take one concept. 723 01:08:24,840 --> 01:08:26,360 If you can read the book, 724 01:08:28,480 --> 01:08:30,180 I'm gonna give a few books to my family. 725 01:08:30,600 --> 01:08:32,000 Get on my business, it's a fun 726 01:08:38,050 --> 01:08:38,230 thing. 727 01:08:38,470 --> 01:08:39,470 Don't ignore the fact 728 01:08:39,470 --> 01:08:41,350 and don't feel helpless and out of control. 729 01:08:43,390 --> 01:08:46,270 First, my parents and your small group to do the same. 730 01:08:48,810 --> 01:08:49,950 When they go over to the lab, 731 01:08:50,350 --> 01:08:52,390 we reinforce by not being a parachute 732 01:08:52,390 --> 01:08:54,730 with dogs and a charger in their own room 733 01:08:54,730 --> 01:08:55,910 at the reach of their kids. 734 01:08:56,510 --> 01:08:57,790 Kids have not allowed that ever, 735 01:08:57,870 --> 01:08:59,590 about 10 their bedrooms, and they go in. 736 01:09:00,050 --> 01:09:02,470 Kids need memories, most kids respect, 737 01:09:03,310 --> 01:09:04,490 and appreciate memories, 738 01:09:11,700 --> 01:09:12,240 but he knows. 739 01:09:13,180 --> 01:09:15,200 And he has so many, all my friends, 740 01:09:16,320 --> 01:09:19,020 we see his family many nights, 741 01:09:19,020 --> 01:09:19,640 After 742 01:09:21,880 --> 01:09:27,060 9 p.m. and just have a conversation, we watch the same thing on TV, who has had 743 01:09:27,060 --> 01:09:27,500 some 744 01:09:32,140 --> 01:09:36,150 kids, had a strike at home, sad goals, 745 01:09:38,750 --> 01:09:40,410 do your kids, if you have kids, great kids, 746 01:09:40,570 --> 01:09:43,710 if you want to address them, sit down and talk about it, you know, just sit down and say, 747 01:09:46,770 --> 01:09:52,620 I love you enough that I want to protect you, the addiction is 748 01:10:01,420 --> 01:10:03,840 maybe Instagram addicted to 749 01:10:03,840 --> 01:10:04,360 their kids, 750 01:10:08,950 --> 01:10:10,990 starting to talk about something else that I 751 01:10:13,840 --> 01:10:14,500 think is serious, 752 01:10:38,310 --> 01:10:39,110 you talk me some 753 01:10:42,150 --> 01:10:46,470 Many times we get attention to what knowledge I 754 01:10:51,460 --> 01:10:56,240 heard you slow down and pay attention to what matters to us with the picture of our yard boys 755 01:10:56,240 --> 01:10:57,060 Trophy 756 01:11:01,830 --> 01:11:03,870 you can find it 757 01:11:07,230 --> 01:11:07,570 doesn't 758 01:11:07,570 --> 01:11:08,030 Get 759 01:11:10,200 --> 01:11:12,160 your 760 01:11:22,210 --> 01:11:27,330 kids outside of play get along the screens. It will pay off. Thank you for listening 761 01:12:21,550 --> 01:12:22,030 of 762 01:12:34,060 --> 01:12:35,520 the video I showed you, the 763 01:12:52,580 --> 01:12:53,580 free play learned. 764 01:15:19,320 --> 01:15:30,370 Local government meeting. Local government meeting. Local government meeting. 765 01:15:30,370 --> 01:15:33,350 5 days, 7 days. He didn't rest here, he 766 01:15:35,520 --> 01:15:36,320 didn't take it from home. 767 01:15:40,820 --> 01:15:43,280 6, 7, 8 years ago. They probably did with it now. 768 01:15:43,740 --> 01:15:46,700 Someone had rather been honest with him. He's not going to sleep at all. 769 01:15:46,760 --> 01:15:47,440 It's going to 770 01:15:54,600 --> 01:15:55,760 be pretty seen in the last time. 771 01:15:56,300 --> 01:15:59,080 But that's what this is really to the next two. 772 01:15:59,340 --> 01:15:59,400 We 773 01:16:04,970 --> 01:16:06,010 should speak to him in the 774 01:16:12,600 --> 01:16:12,940 services. 775 01:19:38,280 --> 01:19:40,460 Anyways, two sizes. You actually put it on my hand. 776 01:19:47,350 --> 01:19:47,970 Here's a separate. 777 01:26:27,280 --> 01:26:29,200 Hey kiddo, it's about time for bed, okay? 778 01:26:29,600 --> 01:26:29,880 Okay. 779 01:26:31,360 --> 01:26:32,160 Well, remember. 780 01:26:32,800 --> 01:26:36,100 There's a box in the corner over there with all the pornographic material 781 01:26:36,100 --> 01:26:40,040 that's ever been made in the world, even the really weird stuff that could scar you for life. 782 01:26:41,020 --> 01:26:42,780 I'm trusting you not to look in there, okay? 783 01:26:43,200 --> 01:26:43,620 Oh, okay. 784 01:26:43,780 --> 01:26:44,860 Feelings are for losers. 785 01:26:45,280 --> 01:26:47,700 Oh, and this guy's going to be in your corner all night. 786 01:26:47,860 --> 01:26:50,580 Just randomly spewing out hateful things. 787 01:26:50,960 --> 01:26:52,180 Just ignore him, okay? 788 01:26:52,520 --> 01:26:53,240 Well, I'm thinking of it. 789 01:26:53,500 --> 01:26:56,320 There's an order form on your desk where you can purchase illegal drugs. 790 01:26:56,580 --> 01:26:59,960 The mean girls from your school are going to be standing there talking about you all night. 791 01:27:00,960 --> 01:27:03,620 And this Russian hacker's going to keep asking for your password. 792 01:27:04,400 --> 01:27:06,980 I'm not hacker. Amazon customer service. 793 01:27:08,240 --> 01:27:09,820 It just needs you to ignore them, okay? 794 01:27:10,760 --> 01:27:11,440 Love you, buddy. 795 01:27:12,200 --> 01:27:14,120 We ask too much of our kids when we give them a smartphone. 796 01:27:14,780 --> 01:27:16,480 Let's change the norm together. 797 01:27:16,720 --> 01:27:19,320 Maybe we go around the wrong and share so-so securely numbers. 798 01:27:19,580 --> 01:27:22,560 Join the movement at smartphonefreechildhoodus.com. 799 01:27:22,760 --> 01:27:22,860 Yeah. 800 01:27:23,880 --> 01:27:24,820 I'll get that anyway. 801 01:27:59,260 --> 01:28:01,220 There's a lot of time you see this road and road, 802 01:28:01,340 --> 01:28:02,440 telling you to be true about your age. 803 01:28:02,660 --> 01:28:02,920 And if you 804 01:28:05,220 --> 01:28:06,320 have periods or a little shot 805 01:28:08,500 --> 01:28:09,480 of period in which 806 01:28:13,000 --> 01:28:14,920 That's a time for this to come in. 807 01:28:15,180 --> 01:28:17,100 They pay attention and they form relations. 808 01:28:17,400 --> 01:28:20,140 All these things, I'm having a slow person in neurons 809 01:28:20,140 --> 01:28:21,400 are actually growing. 810 01:28:21,600 --> 01:28:22,900 They're finding each other based on 811 01:28:22,900 --> 01:28:24,400 what the child is doing. 812 01:28:24,980 --> 01:28:26,240 So we grow up in a real world. 813 01:28:26,560 --> 01:28:28,930 And that's very physical. 814 01:28:29,090 --> 01:28:31,070 Kids are a physical, malice, very physical. 815 01:28:31,510 --> 01:28:32,150 And there's a lot of touch. 816 01:28:43,580 --> 01:28:44,700 I push out all the other form. 817 01:28:59,340 --> 01:28:59,840 I'm dead shit. 818 01:29:00,040 --> 01:29:00,480 Jesus Christ. 819 01:29:00,620 --> 01:29:01,320 I will be on anyone. 820 01:29:03,710 --> 01:29:05,770 That way is to making our bones and other decisions. 821 01:29:22,100 --> 01:29:22,620 I'm going to do it. 822 01:29:22,700 --> 01:29:23,040 I won't 823 01:29:31,560 --> 01:29:32,100 risk her dead. 824 01:29:32,200 --> 01:29:34,420 Even from learning the connection between the hard work. 825 01:30:33,060 --> 01:30:47,460 We're big deal. And people were saying, I'm sorry, I'm addicted to the big deal. We're all more girls, we can't move on. That's it. Yes, there are. I can't put a cigarette on us, hold it constantly. And then the back of those, if you recall, if you don't want to, what should you see? 826 01:30:47,460 --> 01:30:47,780 I'll 827 01:30:55,020 --> 01:30:59,480 begin my question in a matter of whether or not the D.C. was a D.C. 828 01:30:59,640 --> 01:31:02,540 I mean, first, I'd like to just go down the road. 829 01:31:03,580 --> 01:31:07,200 Whether each of you believes that the D.C. team is not the D.C. 830 01:31:07,580 --> 01:31:10,980 I've heard virtually all of them touch on just enough. 831 01:31:11,140 --> 01:31:13,080 You believe the D.C. is not the D.C.? 832 01:31:13,080 --> 01:31:15,100 I believe the D.C. is not the D.C. 833 01:31:15,360 --> 01:31:16,080 Mr. Johnson. 834 01:31:18,920 --> 01:31:20,400 Congressmen, cigarettes and D.C. 835 01:32:03,410 --> 01:32:06,170 I'm going to 836 01:36:03,700 --> 01:36:07,460 start off today on a little bit of a heavy note, but I promised that I would 837 01:36:07,460 --> 01:36:14,000 will lighten up. The dots on this screen represent an adult life in months 838 01:36:14,000 --> 01:36:21,040 assuming a life expectancy of 90. So if you're 18 years old right now, this is 839 01:36:21,040 --> 01:36:27,380 an optimistic estimate of the months that you have left. Take a second to take 840 01:36:27,380 --> 01:36:27,780 that in. 841 01:36:29,900 --> 01:36:35,630 Probably not as many as you would expect. And I'm sorry to say that it 842 01:36:35,630 --> 01:36:40,130 does get worse because about a third of that time 843 01:36:40,130 --> 01:36:41,490 is going to be spent sleeping. 844 01:36:42,950 --> 01:36:49,030 On average, 126 of those months will go to school 845 01:36:49,030 --> 01:36:50,010 in your career. 846 01:36:51,730 --> 01:36:56,210 About 18 will be spent driving 36 cooking and eating, 847 01:36:57,410 --> 01:37:02,130 36 doing chores and errands, and about 27 848 01:37:02,130 --> 01:37:05,450 then in the bathroom and taking care of personal hygiene. 849 01:37:06,850 --> 01:37:16,170 So that leaves you with 334 months, optimistically, for everything else. 850 01:37:19,060 --> 01:37:21,140 So this is where you tick the boxes on your bucket list. 851 01:37:23,160 --> 01:37:28,860 This is where you pursue your passions and travel the world and leave your mark. 852 01:37:31,150 --> 01:37:35,790 How you spend this time is going to determine the quality of your life. 853 01:37:35,790 --> 01:37:41,990 But this time isn't just something that you spend, it's also something that you invest. 854 01:37:43,290 --> 01:37:48,490 Because what you do with it will quite literally determine the kind of person you become. 855 01:37:50,630 --> 01:37:57,090 The body, mind, and character that you will have in the future are being actively shaped 856 01:37:57,090 --> 01:37:59,370 by how you choose to use your time today. 857 01:38:02,130 --> 01:38:07,330 So take a second and ask yourself, what do you want to do with that free time? 858 01:38:07,330 --> 01:38:08,390 What 859 01:38:10,600 --> 01:38:13,340 things do you want to do that you haven't done? 860 01:38:15,900 --> 01:38:17,220 Who do you want to spend that time with? 861 01:38:19,570 --> 01:38:21,970 What is worth investing it in? 862 01:38:25,340 --> 01:38:29,440 Now I would be willing to bet that scrolling through TikTok, 863 01:38:30,540 --> 01:38:36,280 binge-watching Netflix, and playing video games probably did not come to mind. 864 01:38:37,660 --> 01:38:43,420 But today, the average 18-year-old in the United States is on pace to spend. 865 01:38:46,450 --> 01:38:50,950 93% of their remaining free time looking at a screen. 866 01:38:52,970 --> 01:38:55,410 That is not counting time for school. 867 01:38:58,050 --> 01:39:08,270 So wrap your head around how sad that is. Imagine getting to the age of 90, seeing this 868 01:39:08,270 --> 01:39:15,370 visualization of how you spent all your time after the age of 18, and thinking about all 869 01:39:15,370 --> 01:39:19,650 the things you could have done that you did not do because you got distracted. 870 01:39:24,200 --> 01:39:31,400 And I also want you to ask yourself, what do you think over 26 years of screen time would 871 01:39:31,400 --> 01:39:31,980 do to you? 872 01:39:33,980 --> 01:39:36,220 What is that an investment in? 873 01:39:38,290 --> 01:39:39,210 How would it change you? 874 01:39:41,810 --> 01:39:46,790 It's well established that there's a link between high screen time and mental health issues, 875 01:39:46,790 --> 01:39:48,570 such as depression and anxiety. 876 01:39:48,570 --> 01:39:55,270 But recently, we've started to unveil the cognitive consequences of excessive tech use as well. 877 01:39:58,110 --> 01:40:04,030 When we're staring at our screens, we are constantly switching our attention between different pieces of information. 878 01:40:04,850 --> 01:40:12,570 The average TikTok is about 15 seconds long, and over 55% of web pages are viewed for 15 seconds or less. 879 01:40:13,870 --> 01:40:20,370 And if you're switching your attention every 15 seconds for an average of eight hours 880 01:40:20,370 --> 01:40:25,910 and 39 minutes a day, you are training yourself to become chronically distracted. 881 01:40:27,470 --> 01:40:35,330 Think about what that will do to your career, to your relationships, and to your ability 882 01:40:35,330 --> 01:40:37,690 to pursue the things that matter most to you. 883 01:40:40,570 --> 01:40:47,090 Unfortunately, the consequences of screen time are not limited to our mental health and 884 01:40:47,090 --> 01:40:47,650 our cognition. 885 01:40:48,510 --> 01:40:53,990 Because every social media platform carries a message that affects what we believe. 886 01:40:55,230 --> 01:41:01,050 They influence the way we see ourselves and the way we see the world purely based on 887 01:41:01,050 --> 01:41:01,870 how they are designed. 888 01:41:05,500 --> 01:41:13,180 Instagram inherently says that your worth is largely defined by what you look like and what 889 01:41:13,180 --> 01:41:20,480 you do on vacations. It compels you to capture all the most meaningful moments of your life 890 01:41:20,480 --> 01:41:28,100 on camera and share them with your entire social network. And it implicitly says that 891 01:41:28,100 --> 01:41:32,200 it's more valuable to have a thousand people that will give you transient social approval 892 01:41:32,800 --> 01:41:37,040 than a few that deeply care about you, even when it's not your best day. 893 01:41:40,490 --> 01:41:42,030 Snapchat inherently 894 01:41:42,030 --> 01:41:48,990 currently says that the quality of our relationships is best measured by the frequency of our communication, 895 01:41:49,810 --> 01:41:51,590 regardless of what we're actually saying. 896 01:41:52,850 --> 01:41:59,330 You get a point added to your Snapchat streak, even if you just send a picture of the side of your face with the caption's streaks. 897 01:42:03,520 --> 01:42:10,560 Twitter says that anything worth saying can and should be reduced to an arbitrary number of characters. 898 01:42:11,700 --> 01:42:17,880 It says that the world is black and white, that it's more important to be updated about 899 01:42:17,880 --> 01:42:21,540 everything than deeply informed about anything. 900 01:42:24,940 --> 01:42:29,460 And when you start to compare the messages these platforms are sending with those of 901 01:42:29,460 --> 01:42:34,740 technologies from the past, you begin to get a sense of what we might be losing. 902 01:42:36,360 --> 01:42:42,740 Because the inherent structure of a book says that the world is complex and it takes time 903 01:42:42,740 --> 01:42:49,300 to understand. It compels us to walk in the shoes of other people and see things from 904 01:42:49,300 --> 01:42:56,240 their perspective with context. And it forces us to focus on one train of thought for an 905 01:42:56,240 --> 01:43:02,940 extended period of time, which nurtures our attention. And the letter tells us that 906 01:43:02,940 --> 01:43:06,640 our communication doesn't need to be frequent. It just needs to be deep. 907 01:43:10,090 --> 01:43:10,910 So when you factor 908 01:43:10,910 --> 01:43:16,210 After all that in, it quickly becomes clear that the opportunity cost of this screen time 909 01:43:16,210 --> 01:43:18,210 is impossible to calculate. 910 01:43:19,290 --> 01:43:27,770 And I have never shown this visualization to anyone that actually wants to spend 93% 911 01:43:27,770 --> 01:43:30,310 of their remaining free time staring at a screen. 912 01:43:32,730 --> 01:43:39,210 So there is a stark difference between how much time we say our screens are worth and 913 01:43:39,210 --> 01:43:40,530 how much time we actually give them. 914 01:43:40,530 --> 01:43:45,390 And it is critical to realize that is not an accident. 915 01:43:46,270 --> 01:43:48,090 That is by design. 916 01:43:49,110 --> 01:43:55,850 It's a consequence of a business model that has incentives which are fundamentally misaligned 917 01:43:55,850 --> 01:43:56,990 with your well-being. 918 01:43:58,190 --> 01:44:02,590 Because you are the product that social media sells. 919 01:44:04,030 --> 01:44:08,230 These services are free because they are monetizing you. 920 01:44:09,830 --> 01:44:16,070 They profit by helping advertisers change your future behavior, whether that be where 921 01:44:16,070 --> 01:44:19,990 you spend your time, how you spend your money, or even who you vote for. 922 01:44:21,770 --> 01:44:24,170 In order to do that, they have to do two things. 923 01:44:25,090 --> 01:44:30,610 They need to figure out which ads are going to influence you by collecting as much data 924 01:44:30,610 --> 01:44:37,410 about you as they possibly can, and then they need to show you as many of those ads as possible. 925 01:44:37,410 --> 01:44:38,350 So 926 01:44:40,850 --> 01:44:44,810 social media is free because you pay for it with your time. 927 01:44:46,370 --> 01:44:50,870 Their profit is directly linked to how long they can get you to scroll. 928 01:44:52,090 --> 01:44:59,250 And every social media platform is in a battle with each other to capture as much of your 929 01:44:59,250 --> 01:44:59,810 for free time. 930 01:45:00,000 --> 01:45:00,940 As possible, 931 01:45:03,290 --> 01:45:22,810 so let's run a thought experiment. I want you to ask yourself, how much would you pay for your favorite social media platform if it charged you a monthly subscription fee? So pick the app that you use the most. And raise your hand if you would pay at least $5 a month. 932 01:45:25,440 --> 01:45:26,520 OK, how about $10 a month? 933 01:45:28,930 --> 01:45:35,290 20? I don't see any hands anymore. Well, let's do a quick, 934 01:45:35,290 --> 01:45:41,210 calculation to figure out how much we're effectively paying for an app like TikTok. 935 01:45:41,850 --> 01:45:46,290 We'll assume that you value your time at a rate of $20 per hour 936 01:45:47,250 --> 01:45:54,350 and you're spending two hours a day on the platform, or 30 days in a month. So you're effectively 937 01:45:54,350 --> 01:46:01,890 paying $1,200 per month for TikTok. So when you start to do this kind of analysis, it quickly becomes 938 01:46:01,890 --> 01:46:06,670 clear that most of us are drastically overpaying for social media. 939 01:46:08,390 --> 01:46:15,630 My ask of you is this, figure out what it means for you to get a good deal out of social 940 01:46:15,630 --> 01:46:16,450 media platforms. 941 01:46:17,590 --> 01:46:19,830 In order to do that, you have to do two things. 942 01:46:20,750 --> 01:46:24,630 You have to ask yourself, what value do these services provide? 943 01:46:25,470 --> 01:46:30,030 And second, you have to ask, how much of your time is that value worth? 944 01:46:31,370 --> 01:46:34,930 Now, I want to be clear that I am not saying social media is without value. 945 01:46:35,550 --> 01:46:38,050 It can be an incredibly powerful tool. 946 01:46:38,830 --> 01:46:43,570 It can foster relationships, it can introduce you to new ideas, it can even spark social 947 01:46:43,570 --> 01:46:47,150 movements, but we need to learn to use it in moderation. 948 01:46:50,020 --> 01:46:51,880 Don't let yourself get to the age of 90. 949 01:46:52,800 --> 01:46:58,300 Only to look back on your life and realize that while you were trying to avoid FOMO, you 950 01:46:58,300 --> 01:46:59,260 actually missed out on living. 951 01:46:59,260 --> 01:47:04,720 That free time is your most valuable resource. 952 01:47:05,580 --> 01:47:06,980 Do not give it away for free. 953 01:47:07,660 --> 01:47:08,400 Thank you.